Handling Sexual Issues in the Family

“Reuben, you are my firstborn, my might and the beginning of my strength,

The excellency of dignity and the excellency of power. Unstable as water, you shall not excel,

Because you went up to your father’s bed; then you defiled it; He went up to my couch”.

                                                                                                                --Genesis 49:3-4

The Power of the Family

The family is the oldest and most powerful institute in the world.

The state of the family determines the outcome of every society, nation and church.

The devil knows the power of the family in world transformation and destruction that was why His first attack on mankind was channeled towards the first family on this earth (Adam and Eve).

The fall of the first family…lead to a fallen world we live in today.

Sexuality in the Family

Sex is a gift from God to the union of man and wife (marriage).

The Devil biggest weapon of mass destruction in these last days is SEX.

Sexual immorality is one of the biggest issues challenging a lot of families in our world today.

*** 90 % OF EVERY SEXUAL PROBLEM WE DEAL WITH ALL STARTED FROM THE HOME…***

Many families are struggling to handle sexual promiscuity in the home because of lack of knowledge.

Of a truth, “My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge”.(Hosea 4:6)

It is painful to note that there are many Family Life Seminars, courses, training and education going on in the world, yet many families are still living in defeat, shame and disgrace because of failure to handle this monster called ‘sexual immorality’.

I want to address three major sexual issues that has lead to sexual struggle in the family

1.                   Lack of sexual morality education.

Proverbs 22:6, “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it”.

A lot parents still do not understand the role they hold in the sexual life of their children.

I tell you the truth: Parents holds up to 80% in the outcome of the sexual health/life of their children.

Parents played an integral part in the sexual make up, response and health of their children.

Parents have failed in teaching their kids sexuality education. Our children today now rely on social media (e.g. facebook), television and peers for solution.

Listen parents: Do not depend entirely on the church, the government or the counselors to train your kids for you. God has given you greater responsibility and you are the most important person in the outcome of their sexual life of your Children.

Parents need to seek sexual morality education and then become the best counselor and trainer to their children. This is the best strategy to achieve a sexually moral society and church.

2.            Lack of understanding of sexual doorways.

This has really caused serious problem in the homes. We are now having many sexual casualties in the home.

Here are some Common Sexual Doorways that has led to sexual immorality in the Home

1.            Watching of pornographic with siblings

2.            Having pornographic book/magazine in the home

3.            Dressing or undressing in front of your sibling (the opposite sex)

4.            Lying/sleeping on the same bed for brothers and sister

5.            Siblings kissing each other

6.            Parents bathing with grown up Children (the opposite sex)

7.            Parent sleeping on the same bed with grown up children (the opposite sex)

8.            Parents having sex in the midst their kids

9.            Bathing together of siblings (two opposite sex)

10.          Indecent dressing of siblings in the home (nudity/or careless exposing of sexual genitals)

11.          Playing too much together of siblings (two opposite sex)

12.          Spying your sibling when taking his/her bath

(Note: For More on Sexual Doorways, you can get and read my Book ‘Understanding Sexual Doorways’

3.           Facing Sexual Generational Course

A generational curse is a bondage or yoke transferred by the parents to the children by birth.

This can lead to the children living a life of failure, defeat, hardship, poverty, sickness, demonic oppression and habitual sin.

A lot of families are operating under a family/generational curse as a result of sexual immoral practices engaged by the Parents.

Here are some Sexual issues that bring curse to the family:

1.            Babies out of wedlock

2.            Prostitution by parents

3.            Adultery

4.            Abortion by parents

5.            Marine spirit transfer

6.            Rape/Child abuse

7.            Having Sex with mad person/witch doctor

8.            Incest

9.            Homosexuality

10.          Bestiality

11.          Polygamous background (man marrying and having children from different women)

Some of the Effects of Sexual Curse in the Family

•             Unwanted pregnancy

•             Sexually transmitted diseases (i.e. HIV)

•             Separation from God

•             Failure, defeat and Disgrace

•             Poverty and Hardship

•             Divorce by parents

•             Brother and Sister having sex secretly in the home.

•             Children prostituting

•             Children raped/molested

•             Children giving birth to babies in the homes of their parents.

•             Aborted destinies

•             Mental problem/drug abuse.

•             Crisis and Disunity.

If you are a child and your parents have engaged in such lifestyles before you were born, you need to break that curse from having effect in your life.

If you are a parent, you need to pray for yourself and then break the curse from having effect in your children.

How to break the curse

“Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us, for it is written: “Cursed is everyone who is hung on a pole.” He redeemed us in order that the blessing given to Abraham might come to the Gentiles through Christ Jesus, so that by faith we might receive the promise of the Spirit”. (Galatians 3:13-14)

1.            Repent (ask for forgiveness) and receive Jesus Christ into your life and your Lord and Savior. (Being born again brings you to a new family and generation.

2.            Use the blood of Jesus to break every curse and covenant that has taken place as a result.

3.            Use the blood of Jesus to clean every deposit that has been transferred to you.

4.            Command every spirit operating in your life to come out.

5.            Develop a strong relationship with God

6.            Be prayerful.

Some Recommendation for sexual transformation in the Family

1.                   Start your own family Sexual purity devotional

      2.            Get a copy of the Book ‘Understanding Sexual Doorways’ for every member of the family and other purify resources.

      3.            Hold Family Day of Purification prayers every week.

      4.            Clean off the house monthly from pollution and sexual immoral materials. (This is what I called Home Sanctification)

      5.            Train your kids on Sexual morality.

Let us play our role in bringing sexual purity into our families…then we can make our society a sexually moral world.

Rufus Yamoah

Sexual Morality Counselor