Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a
woman.
--1 Corinthians 7:1
What is Romance?
According
to Wikipedia, it is the pleasure of feeling of excitement and mystery of love.
Romance
usually implies an expression one’s love or one’s deep emotional desires to
connect with another person, most particularly, the opposite sex.
Romance
can also be seen as a form of Sexual Play. It is in this context we will
address this subject.
The Truth and Power of
Romance
Romance
or sexual play is a very powerful activity can greatly impact a relationship
Romance
is like an oil in an engine, and like a fuel to fire.
Romance
is a sweet provision for the satisfaction of the flesh.
Romance
is special as sexual intercourse is special.
God is not Against Romance
“When
Isaac had been there a long time, Abimelek king of the Philistines looked down
from a window and saw Isaac caressing his wife Rebekah” (Genesis 26:8)
***The
Scriptures wrote about Isaac having romantic activity with HIS WIFE. They were
MARRIED!!!***
The Act of Romance
Here
are some activities people engage in Romance or Sexual Play
1. Kissing
2. Rubbing/touch of
sexual/sensitive organs of the other person (e.g. breast, penis, vagina, buttocks)
3. Deep hugging
4. Massaging
Why Young people/Singles
Engage in Romance
1. As a means of consolation to
avoid sexual intercourse.
2. As a means to avoid
pregnancy and Sexually transmitted disease.
3. As a means to attain sexual
satisfaction.
4. As a means to please their
partner.
What You Need to Know
1. Romance may be sexual
abstinence, but it is not sexual purity.
2. Romance as a single is still
sexual immorality before God and a sin. (Hard right?—but true)
3. Romance may be a means to avoid STD; but not a
means to avoid sin.
4. Romance is a sexual doorway
that will always lead to sexual intercourse.
5. Romance is highly influenced
by the spirit of lust.
6. Romance is making provision
and feeding the flesh and not your spirit.
7. Romance does not bring
sexual satisfaction, it will leave wanting for more.
Doorways/Causes of Romance
1. Too much closeness with the
opposite sex.
2. Holding and Dancing together
3. Sitting on the laps of an
opposite sex
4. Watching pornographic
together
5. Falling in lust and
infatuation thinking it is Love.
6. Listening to romantic/songs
music/ watching love movies/soap operas together.
7. Having sexual dreams while
sleeping.
8. Reading romantic
novels/magazines.
Overcoming the trap of
Romance
1. Change the way you think. A
lot of people are too casual when it comes to sexual play. They see it as
nothing wrong with it. They believe that as long as we don’t engage in sexual
intercourse, everything else can take place. BIG LIE!
2. Humble Yourself and FLEE. A
lot people are claim they are strong and that they can manage the game of
romance. But this people who claim to be strong are only bread in the hand of
the devil. You are not better, stronger or wiser than Joseph who ran away from
Potipher’s wife!
3. Soak yourself in the Word of
God. This will help you deal with lust in your mind.
4. Spend more time fellowship
with God through prayer, fasting and worship.
5. Close every doorway that
will only fuel your sexual feelings.
My Advice:
As
a single/young person, engaging in sexual play or romance will only give the
devil opportunity to attack you with lust towards sexual immorality.
The
Word of God adminises us to ‘FLEE FROM YOUTHFUL LUST…” (2 Timothy 2:22
Live
the sexual morality life…
Rufus
Yamoah
Sexual
Morality Counselor
