The Truth About Condom and Safe Sex

“Thus Saith the Lord: Cursed be the man that trusted in man, and maketh flesh his arm, and WHOSE HEART DEPARTETH FROM THE LORD”.-- (Jeremiah 17:5)

What is condom? 

It is a barrier device mostly used during sexual intercourse to reduced the probability of pregnancy and spreading of sexual transmitted diseases. It is put in a man’s penis and it physically blocks ejaculated semen from entering the body of a sexual partner.

What then is Safe Sex? 

It is a kind of sex where people protect themselves with contraceptive (e.g condom) when having sexual intercourse with a sexual partner.

This is the question I keep asking?

What good has condom done to our young people?

How safe is safe sex?

It is a great puzzle to me to hear of Government going to schools to give young students condoms and teaching them to protect themselves when having sex.

Is Safe Sex the right sexual education to teach our kids?

Let’s go back to the beginning.

Condoms have been in existence for more than 400 years according to researchers.

The original purpose was for birth control by married couples. Today…condom has become a ‘sex god’ in our society.

The concept of sex safe is a deception from the pit of hell. Condom has done more harm than good to our young people.

It is claimed that condoms helps to avoid pregnancy and prevent sexually transmitted disease.

If this is true, then condom cannot be reliable!

Some facts to consider according to researchers:

The United State Centers for Diseases Control (CDC) reported that 56 million have STD

12 million people get a new STD each year

33,000 people get a new STD every day, and

22, 000 of them are 15 to 24 years old.

25 % of High School students will be infected with STD before graduation.

“Condom is unreliable”

About one of every five teens using condoms becomes pregnant within one year, according to the National Survey of Family Growth.

Many leading experts have warned against depending condoms for protection against HIV and other STDs.

“You just can’t tell people it is right to do whatever they like as long as they wear condom”, (Dr. Harold Jaffee, Chief of Epid emiology, National Centers for Disease Control.

“Simply put, condom fails. And condom fails at a rate that is unacceptable to me as a physician to endorse them as strategy to be promoted as meaningful AIDS protection”. (Dr. Robert Renfeild, Walter Reed Army Institute

Condoms Manufacturers knows very well that their product is not 100 % method for protection.

Why should we endorse that which not reliable?

Why do we still go with the concept of ‘safe sex’ when we have not seen any safety in these contraceptives.

I want you to know that Safe Sex is never God’s idea when he created sex for man. Safe Sex is an invention of Satan who played on man’s desire to always satisfy their flesh and selfish interest.

***God’s idea for young people when it comes to sexuality is not the practice of safe sex as the society has taught, but it is Abstinence and sexual purity***

They society has train the mind of youth to become so weak when it comes to their sexual feelings. They make us to believe that it is impossible for someone to control his/her sexual drive. So everybody can just go with a condom.

Safe Sex vs. Sexual Purity

You need to think about these things…

1.       Condom can prevent a disease but cannot preserve your virginity; Sexual purity will do both.

2.       Condom does not protect you from falling into sin and separation from God; Sexual purity will.

3.       Buying condom will make the Manufacturer richer and take away your money; Sexual purity will preserve your money.

4.       God hates wastage. You waste your sperm when you ejaculate in the condom. Your body is the temple of God.

5.       Condom does not keep your marriage bed to be undefiled; Sexual purity will.

6.       Condom does not prevent emotional trauma, heart breaks, guilt, regrets and hate; sexual purity will save your life.

7.       Condom can fail at any time. This means it is unreliable; sexual purity is reliable.

8.       Using condom as a youth shows that you cannot rely of God for grace to help us overcome sexual temptation.

It is time for our society to make a shift…

It is time to depart from this evil we have gotten ourselves into.

We cannot help ourselves except we seek God for help.

He is the originator of Sex…let us run to Him for help and guidance so that we can be safe in this sexual infested society we live in.

Joseph made it. He did not use condom. He followed after sexual purity. He trusted God and reply on Him.

Condom is not the solution.

Let us run away from this idol worship.

God is the solution to every sexual struggle…

Rufus E. Yamoah

Sexual Morality Counselor

How to Make the Right Decision on Sexual Relationship

Your decision today is the seed that will speak for your tomorrow.

Decision Making skill is one of the best skills a person can develop in order to attain personal success in life.

Your decision will determine your destination.

Decision making skill is the ability to make the right choices that will bring you blessings in life and not destruction.

Sexual relationship is a kind of relationship where a person is sexually active (I mean engage in sexual activity) with his/her partner.

A lot of people today and living a life of regret and pain because of poor decisions they made.

As a youth or single, for you to achieve a healthy sexual relationship in the future, you must make the right decisions today.

A lot of young people are in the dilemma of whether to become sexually active or not, whether to stop or start a relationship, whether to have a kid now or focus on their school or even whether to get married or remain single. These are some of the issues that run through the heart of many.

Sexual issues are no casual issues.

You must not be too quick to make sexual decisions because whatever you do will have a profound effect on your destiny and success in life.

Your decisions about sexual relationship will affect your life plans, health, finance, family, career and relationship with God—I mean everything about YOU.

Why People Make Wrong Decisions on Sexual Relationship

1.       Sexual feelings: A lot of people enter into a sexual relationship because of their sexual drive not because of love. When a person cannot lead his/her sexual feelings, then will be influence negatively by those feelings and will try to seek satisfaction for their sexual need.

2.       Peer pressure and associations: It is true that iron sharpens iron and like begat like. This is law of association. We become like the people will align ourselves with. Many people enter into sexual relationship because their friends are all sexually active and they want to have sense of belonging.

3.       The mass media deception: The media (most especially internet, television and music) has done a lot of harm to our youth in the society. The media have presented a society that sees nothing wrong with people entering sexual relationship before getting married. The media has taken hold of the mind of young people and this has influenced people negatively into entering into sexual relationship.

4.       Ignorance: This is really a big virus affecting so many young people. So many entering into sexual relationship without knowing the impact of sexual involvement on one’s life. Of a truth, people are destroyed for lack of knowledge.  Lack of proper sex education is really affecting our churches, families, schools and society at large.

5.       Taking of harmful drugs and alcohol: Drugs and alcohol has a strong power to affect our emotions negatively. This can lead us into making wrong decision on sexual relationship. Most young people who began drinking and smoking will always crown it with sexual activity.

6.       The god of Condom: A lot of young people are influence into sexual relationship because of the myth of safe sex…the use of condoms and contraceptives. They belief that has long as they can purchase a condom they are ready for sexual involvement.

7.       Family background and environment place a large role in forming our sexual identity. Parents who have a poor sexual lifestyle will end up breeding kids who will grow up into making wrong decisions on sexual relationship. Our environment reveals the people’s culture and belief system. For example, an environment that sees nothing wrong with homosexuality and prostitution tend to raise up people with such a sexual lifestyle.

The impact of Wrong Decision on Sexual Relationship

1.       It can lead to sexual abuse and molestation.

2.       It can lead to abortion and its complications.

3.       It can lead to unwanted pregnancy.

4.       It can lead to heart break, emotional trauma/psychological stress.

5.       It can lead to contracting STIs and HIV/AIDS.

6.       It destroys destiny and careers.

7.       It brings separation between you and God.

8.       It brings loss of virginity.

9.       It brings loss of self respect and self esteem.

10.   It can cause financial setback and struggle.

Here are some factors that will influence you towards making the right decision concerning sexual relationship.

1.       Seek the truth about sex and its purpose from the Word of God and not from friends or the mass media.

2.       Ask the Holy Spirit, who is called the Spirit of Truth, to guide you into making the right decision towards any sexual issue. The Holy Spirit also gives power to resist temptation and also ability to control our sexual feelings.

3.       Associate with Wise Counselors and people who believe in sexual purity. This will affect your decision on whether it is necessary to involve in sexual relationship or not. Remember Iron sharpens iron.

4.       Patience is a virtue. I have learned this lesson the hard way. A lot of young people are in a hurry to satisfy their sexual urge and are not willing to wait for their time. When you have this virtue of patience, it will influence your decision not to rush into sexual relationship because you see others in it.

5.       Your relationship with God matters when making sexual decisions. You must ask yourself that, “Should I seek to satisfy and please my flesh or to make my Heavenly Father Happy?” which is more important.

Some benefits of making the Right Decisions on Sexual Relationship

1.       It will protect your destiny and purpose.

2.       It bring protect your honor, glory, dignity and respect.

3.       It will preserve you from STIs and HIV/AIDs.

4.       It will help you to become responsible and focus.

5.       Sexual purity clarifies your vision and direction to your destination.

6.       It will help you to avoid regret, set back, heart break and unnecessary emotional/mentral drainage.

7.       It will help you to achieve your goal.

8.       It builds your self esteem and confidence.

9.       It helps you to build a strong relationship with God and people.

Do you have a boyfriend or girlfriend that gives you sexual satisfaction?

Are you thinking of entering a new sexual relationship?

Let this article lead you into making the right decision that will build your life and help you to reach the height you desire in life.

Rufus E. Yamoah

Sexual Morality Counselor