More Than Just Intercourse

“But I say unto you, that whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart”. – Matthew 5:28

The Simple Old Definitions  

Sexual Intercourse is a sexual activity in which a man insert is manhood (sexual organ) into a woman’s vagina.

Adultery is a sexual intercourse committed by a married person with someone he/she is not married to.

Fornication is a sexual intercourse committed by two unmarried persons.

The Concept of Sexual Immorality

The aim of this article is to redefine sexual immorality according to the perspective laid by Jesus Christ.

In Matthew 5:27-28 ( please read it) where Jesus was having an Open Air teaching seminar, He finally unfold the true concept of sexual immorality…which humans have not been able to understand or comprehend since creation.

Many people hold an archaic and shallow view and belief that sexual immorality consist only in adultery and fornication. They say only these two can be seen as sinful and illegal. They say that apart from adultery and fornication, humans can express their sexual appetite any way they feel like and it is not bad. What a painful philosophy!

People who believe that adultery and fornication is what sexual immorality is all about know nothing about sexuality!  We all need to do a rethink!

In the above scripture, Jesus is saying, “My people, sex is more than just an intercourse! “

Sexual immorality or sin is more than adultery and fornication!

Jesus is also saying , “My children, there are many ways you fall into sexual immorality apart from sexual intercourse”.

It is time to change your mindset about sexual immorality. Sexual sin is more than making love with somebody.

I want to show you some others ways we fall into sexual immorality apart from adultery and fornication. Remember, through knowledge and guidance you can win any battle (Proverbs 24:6).

1.       Masturbation: Masturbation is having sexual satisfaction with oneself by playing or rubbing your sexual organ(s). There are male masturbation, female masturbation and even group masturbation. Beware , for this is sexual immorality.

2.       Pornography: Pornography is which also known as ‘porn’ is having a sexual satisfaction through watching pictures of naked people and videos of people having sex. This is an abomination to God and your eyes. Whether, you do it with your G.SM phone, internet, VCD, magazines or any channel…please stop this destructive act!

3.       Internet/Phone Sex: This takes place when two or more persons is having sexual satisfaction by snapping and sending their nakedness to one another. Sometimes they use a computer device called ‘webcam’ in other to view each other nakedness live. They write messages with sexual contents and text it to each other. Please stop this corruption if you do it.

4.       Oral Sex: This is having sexual pleasure or satisfaction by putting your tongue or mouth in the sexual organ(s) of another person. God hate this act so much. It is devilish love expression. Please don’t engage in this.

5.       Anal Sex: This when a man get sexual satisfaction by inserting is manhood into the anus of another person, whether male or female. This is witchcraft love. Beware!!!

6.       Homosexuality: This is having sexual satisfaction by engaging in love making with a person of the same sex (gender) with you. A gay is a male having sex with another male. A lesbian is a female having sex with another female.  This is Satan's idea of mocking God. Beware of this, it will destroy your life.

7.       Spiritual Sex: There are some people who get sexual satisfaction only in the spirit world. Some engage in spiritual sex through their dreams ( having spiritual wife or husband); Astral sexual projection and travel; Some through imagination and visualization. This is demonic. Flee from this, it will only bring course into your life.

There are many, but these are some ways people engaged in sexual immorality.

Now you can see than…sex is more than just Intercourse.

You can achieve it…

Rufus Yamoah

Sex Morality Counselor

Attaining Sexual Purity

“Always be clothe with White…” Ecclesiastes 9:8a

We all understand what the color White represents. It is a symbol of purity, holiness and sacredness.

White is a special and unique among of all colors. It is the color of divinity—God’s nature.

This is the very reason why God said we should be always—not sometimes or when we feel like—be clothe in white. (Read Genesis 1:27) 

Listen: The above focus scriptural verse is an advice…it is a divine command which we must obey at all cost!

What does it mean to be clothe in White?

It simply means, to always (at all time) do your best to abstain (avoid, flee) from every appearance or act of sin, filthiness, defilement, perversion, immorality or evil that could bring corruption to your life in God.

So what about sexual purity?

Sexual purity is simply a state where the human spirit, soul (mind and emotion) and body is free all sexual defilement, sin, evil or immorality.

But wait…

Is it possible for a youth or teen to attain a sexually pure life in this sex- crazy society we find ourselves?”

I know you may have a thousand reasons why it seems impossible! Yes, I quite understand how you feel, because we all know that as youths we are in period of life where our sexual hormones are most hungry to be fed and our sexual muscles are most seeking to exercise its abilities.

Despite all these…

WITH ALL BOLDNESS, I CAN TELL YOU THAT, SEXUAL PURITY IS VERY POSSIBLE!

Take a look at Revelation 3:14 which say, “Yet you a FEW PEOPLE in Sardis who have not soiled their clothes. They will walk with Me, dressed in White, for they are WORTHY”.

In the crowd of sexual immorals, in the society that is crippled by sexual infestation and in the church of sexual hypocrites…there are FEW PEOPLE who attain sexual purity!

These few people have made up their mind to walk with God like Enoch, Noah and Daniel and never to compromise their stand no matter their corruption of their generation.

**Don’t say every one is doing it. Nobody will file a lawsuit against you if you don’t! You don’t have to say yes to the crowd. Be part of the worthy few that say NO to sexual sin**

Sexual immorality will only soil (defile) your cloth (glory, life) and destroy your walk with God. It will only invite dishonor, disapproval, failure and shame into your life.

Can God count you to be worthy?

Do you want to live a life full of favor, honor, blessings and abundance…

…the secret is in attainment of sexual purity.

Rufus Yamoah

Sex Morality Counselor

Understanding the Power of Sexual Seduction

 

“…Understanding will GUARD you…” Proverbs 2:11b

The Power of Understanding

In all your getting…GET UNDERSTANDING!

Understanding gives you insight into hidden mysteries, knowledge and wisdom.

Understanding makes you to be vigilant, alert and watchful.

Understanding gives you light, direction and positive destination.

Many people have fell, and are falling into the prey of sexual immorality because of lack of this all important treasure called UNDERSTANDING.

William Shakespeare once said “the world is a theatre”.

Well, he might not be far from the truth when we look at the great deceptions, lies, masquerades, drams, paintings, art, seduction and mind games that has crippled our world today. 

The art of seduction has become one of the most potent weapons of success in this generation.

People use it to achieve success in business, marketing, job, family, marriage, relationship, academy, sex…I mean virtually everything!

Truth, sincerity, righteousness and integrity have become an ancient house that nobody is willing to live in.

“Oh! How the people have been destroyed.

For they have all left the ancient house”.

Remember SAMSON…

Samson in the bible was a man of great power and influence. He was, in his time, a Judge and Leader of God’s holy people Israel.

Samson had everything, but he lacked one valuable…and that is, UNDERSTANDING.

This was what brought his total destruction.

You see; lack of understanding is really tragic.

In the school of seduction, if your opponent lacks understanding of what you are up to, you are sure to capture him/her.

If you have understanding of sexual seduction, you are 80% sure you can achieve sexual purity and overcome sexual immorality.

Delilah, the woman who Samson fell in love with, was a master in the art of sexual seduction. She carouse Samson into revealing the secrets of his power, which eventually brought his downfall and destruction. (Read the full story in Judges 16, 17).

What is Sexual Seduction?

Sexual seduction in a simple term is “the art or ability of driving, persuading and inducing a person (s) into having sexual intercourse or pleasure with you.

It has to do with some cleverly constructed enticements, inducement, manipulations or control when practicing seduction.

Let me show you some few ways that will impart in you understanding and equip you to become more alert, aware and watchful against sexual seduction.

1.       The power of dressing: Every dressing has a hidden or expressing purpose. So also a seducer and her dressing.  If you understand the way a seducer dresses you will know his/her intent towards you. This is the first signal you must flee or guard against. You can almost tell when or if a person wants to have sex with you through his/her dressing. Be wise. (Read Prov. 7:10).

2.       The power of Kissing: Don’t play with this at all. When a lady or a guy kisses you, it’s a signal that he/she is ready to have sex with you. There is a great seducing power in kissing. If you want to overcome sexual immorality… please don’t flirt with kissing! I’m sorry but I have to tell you the truth. (Read Prov. 7:13).

3.       The power of free gifts: Free gifts can always lead to sexual favor or compensation. It is truly said that “gift blinds the eyes of a man”.  Too many gifts from the opposite sex may have a sexual intent behind it. But the pain is that, before you may realize yourself, you might have become another sexual casualty! Free gifts have great seducing power and it can make you submit easily to sexual pressure from the opposite sex who gives the gifts. Be cautious and sensitive. Remember the old saying, “There is no free launch!” (Read Prov. 7:14-17).

4.       The power of flattery words: Words are the most powerful weapon in the human community. Flattery words are like arrows that pierce into your human Will, mind and emotion and make you vulnerable to sexual perversion, immorality and filthiness. When you are getting too many praises from a particular opposite sex, watch it! Understand that not every word you hear is genuine heart-felt expression.  Flattery words can lead you sexually astray. Sometimes they will use sexually motivated conversation to lure or seduce you. Be smart. (Read Prov. 7:21).

5. The Power of Dancing: Ladies are very good at using the tactic to lure any man who is not careful. If you don't want to be seduce don not go into dancing. This is really powerful. dancing has a great effect in the human emotion and it can influence our heart greatly.

6. The Power of Eye contact: Eyes is the greatest doorway to seduction and lust. people have been charmed and captured into sexual immorality through eye contact or long gazing. When a person is looking at you too much, you need to know there is a sexual seed they want to transfer inside of you. (Prov. 6:25).

Understanding the powers behind sexual seduction is a major key to achieving success in this our sexually infested environment.

Take this six powers I have exposed to you seriously and let them guard you in your relationships and daily living.

You can achieve it

Live the sexual morality world.

Rufus Yamoah

Sexual Morality Counselor.

The Emotional Force of Sexuality

“For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murder, adulteries, fornication, thefts, false witness, and blasphemies.”

                                                            --Matthew 15:19

The heart is the Human Emotional Control Center (H.E.C.C).

Our heart determines and dictates our emotional moods, response and feelings.

The heart is the most powerful force of all the make-ups in the human body.

It is the driver…wherever it goes, everything else just have to conform.

The heart is the mother of all emotional responses or reactions—whether good or bad—to life, circumstances and people.

A healthy heart produces a healthy emotion; a sick heart produces an unhealthy emotion. It’s a simple as 1+1=2!

The bible understand that the heart is the H.E.C.C (I hope you know what I mean) that is while it warns that “guide your heart with all diligence, for out of it flows the issues of life”. (Proverbs. 4:23).

All sexual issues like fornication, adultery, homosexuality, prostitution, sexual protests, rape, womanizing, masturbation, pornography and so on, where all, at first, was produced and nurtured in the heart before it became physical evidence!

>>>The emotional force of sexuality is the HEART<<<

If you can guide it in the way of holiness, righteousness and the fear of God, you will produce and experience sexual liberty, purity and morality.

Now; I want to reveal to you some negative emotional forces that can become a doorway to sexual immorality. You must guide against these emotions and feelings…

1. Depression: For some people, when they feel downcast and sad they fall into sexual pleasure as a tool for their comfort. Depression is a doorway to prostitution and womanizing.

2. Rejection/Loneliness: Some people use sex as a bridge to cover their feeling of loneliness. This negative force is a doorway to sexual issues like masturbation and pornography.

3. Anger and Frustration: For some people, when they get cut up in this feelings, they get into dangerous sexual activity like rape, cyber bullying, child abuse and even sexual protest.

4. Low Self Esteem/Poor Self Image: A lot of people with these negative feelings about themselves may end up with sexual activity like internet sex, homosexuality and even masturbation.

5. Infatuation: Even if this looks like a positive emotion, the truth is that it is false appearance of love which eventually gives birth to lust and then Lust will lead to sexual activity. When infatuation is not dealt it, you may end up in fornication, romance, oral or anal sex, fingering and even sexual addiction.

These are but a few emotional forces in the heart that can become doorway to sexual corruption and immorality if not properly checked and guided.

Guide your heart so that it can produce the positive emotion of faith, holiness, hope, grace, peace and self control.

Live the Sexual morality life

Rufus Yamoah

Sex Morality Counselor

How to Protect Your Destiny

“Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou came forth out of the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nation”.

                                                                                                --Jeremiah 1:5

Purpose and Destiny                                           

Purpose and destiny are perhaps the most important words you must focus your maximum attention to.

God is a God of purpose.

You are a product of purpose because you are a product of God.

God created you with a purpose and for a purpose.

Purpose is the intended reason or original intention God has in mind when He was shaping, forming and creating you.

Destiny is the reason why you are alive.

Destiny is what you are created for.

Destiny is the sum total of who you are and what you were born to be.

Destiny is living for God’s purpose.

Destiny is your divine vocation or business planted inside of you by God to be carried by you on this earth.

We were all created with a purpose and for destiny.

The Enemy of Destiny

It is a divine and absolute truth that your number enemy of your destiny is SEXUAL IMMORALITY.

Bill Newman once said in His Book, “if a youth can conquer sex, he can conquer life”.

I wholeheartedly agree with him.

The real enemy of our destiny is sexual immorality.

**Sexual immorality thwarts your destiny **

When you engage or live in sexual immorality you unleash a big monster to fights against your destiny release and fulfillment.

No sin works directly against man’s destiny like sexual immorality!

You never fulfill your destiny when you live a sexual immoral life.

Believe me or not. It’s the truth.

Sexual immorality prevents someone from becoming that which he was created to be.

Through engaging in sexual promiscuity, the demons and enemy of destiny is legally released by Satan to begin to work against the fulfillment of destiny.

Destroying Your Future

“For I know the thoughts and plans that I have for you, says the Lord, thoughts and plans for welfare and peace and not for evil, to give you hope in your final outcome”.

                                                                                                --Jeremiah 29:11

God has a good thoughts and wonderful plans concerning your future, dreams and aspirations in life. His plan is to make you a champion, winner, victor and an Achiever.

The number two evil sexual immorality does to one’s life, is that it destroys your future!

Sexual immorality forces God to drop His thoughts and plans He has concerning your future.

If you have concern for your future, you must seek to protect it from the destroyer called sexual immorality.

There is an enemy of our future. All they are concern about is about our past and present, but about our future. The devil knows that if he can destroy a man’s hope (his future) he can render man useless and powerless.

Becoming a Failure

Nobody is born to fail.

Failures are made and are not born.

**Failure is a spirit, it’s not a person**

There is one sure way that makes or renders you a failure…

And that is through sexual immorality!

Sexual immorality is the faithful failure-potter that makes real failure-vessels.

You must understand that it’s God’s divine pleasure and Will for you to become a success in every area of your life.

When you practice or engage in the life of sexual immorality, you rend into pieces your garment of success and invites the spirit of failure to cloth you with her garment of failure.

You must guide your destiny with all diligence and jealousy.

What makes you special, dynamic and even a target of many enemies, is your destiny (your calling and divine mission); it’s not your facial beauty or how much money, fame you have accumulated.

Your destiny is your treasure!

You must protect it from all the arrows of sexual temptations.

Your future and hope is the fuel that keeps your life moving.

Your success in life should be your utmost priority.

To win in life…you must begin to gaining freedom from the power of sexual immorality.             

Rufus Yamoah

Sex Morality Coach

Making A Wise Choice

“…choose for yourself this day whom you will serve…”                   

                                                            --Joshua 24:15

Your Divine Privilege

When God created man He gave man many gifts.

One of the greatest natural gifts given to man is the ability to CHOOSE.

Man has a divine privilege to take decisions, set his own goals and give judgments.

Our ability to choose helps us to select and make choices whether they are good or bad.

Your Sexual Desire

Sexual desire is a natural feeling put inside a man by God during creation. This also is a natural blessing and something we must give God praise for.

There is nothing wrong about sexual desire.

Sexual desire is a feeling of a need or wants for sexual pleasure or satisfaction.

Without a desire for something, satisfaction and fulfillment cannot be derived when you have it.

Desire is a powerful force.

When it is not control, it takes control!

Apostle Paul understood the power of sexual desire and that is why he gave us the prescription of getting married as its only cure.

He said…

“Nevertheless, to avoid fornication (and all sexual immorality), let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.” (1 Corinthians 7:2).

You must understand that God never gives you a desire without a remote control for it. I mean, God gives us a boundary, a sense and a Will power to control our desires.

A desire without control will always lead to a crashing end!

The Uncontrollable Sexual Desire (USD)

An uncontrollable sexual desire is a desire for sex that burns like a red knife in a fire cutting through your heart and soul so strong.

U.S.D—I hope you know what I mean—is a passion and lust that controls and enslaves you against your will. It is highly demonic and manipulative in nature. It exercises total dominion over you.

It is this kind of desire Apostle Paul was talking about in Romans 7:16-20 (Please it will be better if you check it yourself).

U.S.D is not of God. Satan the devil is the father of all forms of sexual looseness, lusts and immorality.

Your Will Power vs. the ‘Sex god’

It is true and a fact that sexual desire is the highest and most powerful emotion known to mankind. But God has also given us a ‘Will Power’ and the ‘ability to choose’ as weapons to put this desire under his jurisdiction, custody and control.

When God created man He said man should have dominion (Gen 1:28 ) and that includes our sexual desires, lusts and emotions.

The devil is the one that releases the poison of uncontrollable sexual desire into our heart and this creates a lust and passion to engage in sexual activity against your will.

U.S.D enters your soul with a dangerous fire that burns you until you fulfill its desire, which is engaging in sexual immorality.

Whom Will You Serve?

Sexual morality is a choice.

Sexual immorality is also a choice.

Don’t you think it is time for you to put your Will power to work?

Don’t you think it is time to say no when your ‘libido’ says yes?

It is time to choose wisely!

Choose for yourself this day whom you will serve.

Will you serve the ‘sex god’?

Will you serve the ‘god of the flesh’?

Or you would rather serve your Creator, God and Father and begin to live a sexual moral life.

Remember, the choices we make today lay the foundation for our future and determine what we become.

Sexual morality…begins with you!

Rufus Yamoah

Sex Morality Coach

Overcoming Sexual temptation

“For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world”.

--1 John 2:16

Behind every sex action there is a sex drive…a motivating force.

Behind every Sexual sin there is a sexual temptation.

Sexual temptation is caused by a sexual need.

And a sexual need creates a sexual desire.

And it is a sexual desire (which is lust) that leads to sexual enticement and temptation.

(Please you need to read James 1: 13-15 so you can get the real gist).

Sexual temptation is a natural as the air we breathe.

To say you wish that sexual temptation never come your way is like wishing for the eye to become a nose. Absolutely impossible!

As long as we are in this earth and in this sinful flesh, we will face and continue to face sexual temptations of different kinds, whether big or small, terrible or casual.

Remember, even Jesus Himself was tempted when he chooses to live in the human body.

**Sexual temptation is not a sin. It is only a vehicle that leads to sexual sin**

God did not say we will not be tempted, rather He said we must overcome temptations and live above them.

To overcome sexual temptation we must first understand its secret and how it operates.

Satan, the devil is the Father and source of all temptations—whether sexual or not.

When we know who our enemy is, it is very easy to wage war against him.

The devil has a secret.

This secret gives him the hedge to successfully carry out every form of sexual temptations on humans.

When we learn how he operates and where he is coming from we will overcome all his devices and tricks.

If you carefully learn this secret that I am revealing to you, you will gain real victory over the ‘sex god’ and all his temptations.

Here are three Needs Satan uses to tempt man into sexual immorality.

The knowledge of these needs will help you understand sexual temptation properly.

Need 1. The lust of the flesh:

This is the number need of man. This need is rooted in the human body. This need creates a desire to satisfy the flesh—which is the body.

One special food that satisfies the flesh more than anything else is sex.

The devil understands that sex is an irresistible need of the human body, and that is why tries all the time to present doorways through which man can fulfill this need.

Need 2: The lust of the eyes:

This is the second need of man. This need is rooted in the eyes. The human eyes graves for beauty, glory and good things. The eye is the doorway to the heart. Whatever the eyes found pleasure in the heart cooperates and tries to go after it. The eye and the heart work together.

Beauty is the true force behind every sexual charm, seduction and manipulation.

When a man is sexually captured or attracted by the beauty of a lady, it creates a sexual desire in his heart and this will drive him to fulfill that desire.

The devil understands that man is a natural slave to his eye and would strive to satisfy it at all cost, so he tries to offer opportunities for man to fulfill the need of the eye.

Need 3: The pride of Life:

This is the third need of man. The saying is true that ‘pride goes before a fall’. Satan himself was a victim of pride so he really knows how to operate with this weapon. I would like to point out that pride is more of a weapon than a need.

Humans were created to be personalities. There is a natural need in them to seek for achievement, records, honor, name and reputation.

It is the pride of life that makes man ready to do anything to fulfill this need. It is pride of life that makes a boy to rape a girl that has refuses his entire plea for sexual intercourse.

It is pride of life that makes ladies to commit abortion every day.

The devil has succeeded through pride of life to men to believe that they can also conquer through sex. And this has led to the invention of all kinds of performance-enhancing drugs to make men and women create a name for themselves in the sex world. Gush!

Even today, through pride of life, ladies are no longer proud to say or want to be virgins. The devil makes them believe that virginity is old fashion and a taboo for civilization.

The pride of life is really a weapon the devil using successfully against man.

Now you know where the devil is operating from.

So when he comes to you the next time with his tricks, you should be able to discern and judge which of the needs in you he his trying to play on.

Remember, understanding is the beginning of freedom.

To your freedom

Rufus Yamoah

Sex Morality Coach