The Truth About Kissing

"The kisses of an enemy is deceitful" 
                                               -- (Proverbs 27:6b)

The Concept of Kissing

Wow! This is really a sensitive but interesting subject.
The issue of Kissing has really raised a lot of noise
and stirred up controversy among the minor and elite circles.

Everyone has his/her own opinion and experience.

But let’s get this straight: Life is not determined by your opinions; it is determined by TRUTH.

The truth must be told and lies and myths must be buried.

Anyway…

What is Kissing?

In a general and simple term, ‘kissing is an act or process whereby a person uses the lips as a mark of love or greeting towards someone or something’.

There are different kinds of kissing. Kissing can be express in different ways. 

More so, kissing means different things to different people.

Much as this subject has been influenced so much by nature and nurture, I wouldn’t want to dabble into an unnecessary controversy thereby loosing focus of my priority.

In short; I just want to address the issue of mouth-to-mouth kissing.

The Effect of Mouth-to-Mouth Kissing

Mouth-to-mouth kissing in simple practical term means ‘a form of kissing where by a person uses his/her lips to make contact with another person’s lips as a mark of expressing love and soul connection.

When it comes to the subject of sex and sexuality, kissing is a very big topic. 

The effect of mouth-to-mouth kissing to the human body can never be overemphasized.

Kissing is the most powerful force that activates or releases our sexual hormones and passion.

When we engage in kissing, it creates a strong urge in us to have sex.

Kissing (whether casual or serious) is an effective tool for seduction and manipulation. 

Kissing creates an atmosphere for sexual connection.

Kissing is the preparation ground for sexual intercourse.

The Truth must be told

Kissing is the major channel through which the spirit of deception operates against people.

Through kissing (I mean mouth-to-mouth), an evil poison called ‘lust’ is released into our mind and heart, thereby causing us to become carnal. (Romans 8:7)

Don’t deceive yourself: if you are not ready for sex, do not engage in the game of kissing. Kissing is the bus that will take you to a destination called ‘Sexual Intercourse’.

Kissing is a powerful doorway to sexual immorality. If you don’t want to be the next victim of fornication, please don’t tempt yourself with the game of kissing.

A young lady said to me, “I am in a relationship, and I agree not to have sex, but I will be kissing”.

Well… actually a lot of people claim nothing is wrong, yet thousands of people are falling sexual victim in per second billing.

Let me tell you: Kissing is as powerful as sexual intercourse.

Through kissing (whether, deep or long kissing), people achieve sexual climax and satisfaction even without sexual intercourse.

Now; if this is true… then mouth-to-mouth kissing is a sinful act much as fornication is. PERIOD!

In relationship, dating or friendship with someone, when you treat kissing as casual or nothing, it may lead you into the pit of sexual immorality.

Wisdom says that: whatever that will lead you into sin do not engage in it.

Be Wise… be Smart… Flee!

Rufus Yamoah

Sex Morality Counselor

The Truth About Masturbation

"You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery. But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart."--Matt. 5:27-28 (NIV)

One of the reasons God created Eve was because He did not want Adam to end up in masturbation lifestyle. Sound funny, right? (Please read Gen. 2:18; Eccl. 4:11).

Understanding What Masturbation IS?              

                    

Masturbation is a sexual activity where someone derives sexual pleasure or satisfaction by rubbing or playing with his/her sexual organ with their hands or with the help of any instrument.

We have male and female masturbation.

Masturbation is one of the most common sexual behaviors among young people—yet nobody sees the effects and dangers around it.

The truth has been swallowed up with many lies and misconceptions.

Of a truth, people are destroyed because of lack of knowledge—God’s knowledge.

Understanding the Cause

Loneliness + Uncontrolled sexual urge = Masturbation.

Masturbation is caused an unclean spirit.

It is addictive and habitual. It has a strong bonding power to cage its victim for a lifetime.

This force of masturbation is so strong that when it comes upon someone, until he/she engage in the act the spirit will not leave.

Masturbation is having a strong desire to satisfy flesh. God warned us against seeking to satisfy or please the flesh or our carnal mind. (See Romans 8:6-8)

Masturbation is a consolation of the devil to bridge your sexual immoral desire and lust.

**God is too Holy to ever suggest masturbation as an antidote for your sexual lust or urge**

Many people try to treat masturbation as common and casual. Some felt that it should not be given attention because it is just a bad habit and not more. THIS IS NON SENSE!

Masturbation is more than just a bad habit…IT IS SEXUAL IMMORALITY…IT IS A SIN AGAINST GOD.

When we lack this truth and understanding…we will continue to live in bondage of falsehood.

When you look carefully at the above opening scripture, you will discover the powerful truth Jesus revealed to us: Sexual immorality is more than just sexual intercourse...

THIS IS IT:

**Every sexual gratification, relieve or pleasure that does not involve a man and a wife (as prescribed by God) is a sin and evil whether there is an intercourse or not...PERIOD!

Take a look at this scripture: "AGAIN, IF TWO LIE TOGETHER, THEN THEY HAVE HEAT: BUT HOW CAN ONE BE WARM ALONE?" (Eccl. 4:11)

This scriptural question is posted to everybody who engages in masturbation.

THINK—YES, THINK ABOUT IT.

How can you find warm (sexual pleasure) alone?

This reveals and proved that masturbation is abnormal no matter who or what you are!

Much as Sexual intercourse outside marriage is condemned...Masturbation is not an Option...

Those who engage in masturbation have put on a filthy garment. And like Joshua (Zech. 3:1-7), God is ready to change your garment today...

YOU SHALL KNOW THE TRUTH…AND THE TRUTH YOU KNOW AND APPLY SHALL SET YOU FREE.

Rufus Yamoah

Sex Morality Counselor

The Truth About Mobile Pornography

“And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is good, and acceptable, and perfect will of God”. (Romans 12:2)

Pornography, or rather ‘porn’ as it is commonly called, is the act of viewing pictures/videos of naked people for the sake of satisfying your sexual desire.

In our world today, the pornography business industry has become a boom and it is really making a lot of entrepreneurs and business people millionaires, not minding the lives they are destroying in the process.

This is a painful truth you don’t want to hear: “Every porn video or picture you watch you are directly or indirectly transferring money to someone. You are making people rich while you destroy yourself in the process.

Let’s face it…

GSM pornography?

Does it really matter?

Of all forms of pornography, GSM or Mobile pornography is by far the most common type of pornography we have seen in this sexual infested society we live in.

A painful report states that, 7 out of every 10 young adult will possess a nude or half-nude picture in his/her mobile device.

Today the Christian youths are not exempted. In fact it is now common that when a preacher is speaking the word of God in the church, you see young people browsing through their phones viewing pornographic materials.

Listen, this issue is so clear. You that is reading this article now, would you confidently say you don’t have any sexual or pornographic picture or video in that your phone?

If you think I am joking on this matter, just call for a youth meeting and ask everyone to submit their phones for what I called ‘Mobile Porn Evaluation’. You will be shock to see that even those so-called Holy Ghost filled brethren and heaven-bound saints are also flying high on the wings of pornography.

Some few years ago, God gave me a powerful discovery and insight about a man and his mobile device.

He said “our phones represent a very important part of our life—who we are and what we represent”. He said “He will judge our actions, our words, but He will also judge every activity we engage in with our phones.”

A lot of people see pornography as part of civilization and human freedom of expression.

People who claim that pornography is OK as long as you don’t engage in sexual intercourse know nothing about sex and sexuality.

One fat truth you must grab is that: Sexuality is beyond sexual intercourse.

Jesus made this point clear (see Matthew 5:27-28) that if you looks at a woman lustfully (having desire to have sex with her) you have committed adultery in the heart.

Pornography is a sexual sin of the eyes that goes in to pollute, corrupt and destroy the heart and mind.

Mobile Porn is the number one enemy of the mind. It defiles the mind and fills it with sexual thoughts and desires.

Your mind is a very important part of our whole being. A healthy mind will produce a healthy life.

God also want you to serve Him daily with your mind (see Matthew 22:37).

Please, I have an idea for you. Let us all engage in what a called ‘Mobile Sanctification’. It is time to clear from your mobile device every virus that is corrupting your mental system.

A pornographic mind is a deformed mind. It cannot function at divine capacity. It cannot reach a place of perfection, acceptability and goodness.

Please ask yourself the question: “Of what right do I have to look at someone else nakedness when is neither your wife nor husband?”

Remember, it was because Ham took pleasure in watching his Father Noah’s nakedness that was while he was cursed.

My dear friends; The secret of ending GSM pornography is not in a special formula or strategy, it is in you. The power lies in your hand. No one can help you but yourself.

It is a matter of personal decision, determination and self discipline. It is said that ‘where there is a Will, there is a Way.

Change your mindset and make a resolution to quit this dirty and immoral practice, and you will receive divine support from your God.

You will make it.

Rufus Yamoah

Sex Morality Counselor

The Game of Flirting

“Can a man scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned? Can a man walk on hot coals without his feet being scorched?” –Proverbs 6:27-28

Flirting?

Does it really matter?      

Flirting is perhaps the oldest and most trusted  weapon the enemy, Satan, has used to draw and deceived mankind into the pit of sin and wickedness.

Flirting is the mother of tempatation; as temptation is the mother of sin.

Flirting is simply a deliberate choice, will or act of putting oneself in a position of being tempted or lured into problem or sin.

Flirting is creating a doorway by your own self-will for the Devil and Sin to creep into your life.

It is all about building a house when you know you will not live in it…

I ask you, “Why will someone get to a door if he knows you is not interested to come inside or enter”.

This is the attitude of a Flirt, “I like to get to the door, but I don’t feel like entering. I just want to stay and play around the door.”. IT DOESN’T MAKE ANY SENSE!

Flirting is a game of deception, lies, disguise, hypocrisy, flattery and seduction. It is a creative attitude displayed  by a person in order  to make people believe what is not true.

God is not a Flirt. There is no flirting in His Nature. God is honest,straightforward, truthful, original and sincere.

The game of flirting has been a deadly parasite that has diverted and destroy the destiny and lives of many young  people today. People flirt around the door of sexual immorality and God warned  to flee from it!

If you study the Life of Samson in the Bible, you will find out that he was a Flirt. He used his wisdom, power and abilities to flirt and play game. He ventured  into sexual immorality and ended up losses his eyes, power and life.

Flirting is an profitable activity. It is one of Satan tricks to waste, steal and divert the destinies, visions and gifts of young  people without them  knowing.

Joseph in the Bible was not a Flirt. He feared God and saw sexual immorality as wickedness and evil. Therefore when His Master’s wife came to romance him, he ran for his life. 

FLEE…for this is the right attitude we must develop if we want to overcome sexual temptations.

How  many of us see flirting as a sin? 

How  many of  play around sin and then say, “After all, I haven’t committed the sin?” How  many of us kiss and romance someone and say, ‘well it is okay, we did not have sexual intercourse.”

There is a proverb that says, “IF YOU DON’T WANT TO EAT THE APPLE, THERE IS NO NEED TOUCHING IT”.

The Bible says, “do not give the devil a chance”.

Many so called Christians have boyfriend and girlfriend, yet they claim they want to remain a virgin! What a stress…what a deception.

Flirting is self-deception. It comes from the spirit of lust. You said you don’t want to have sex, yet you like to watch pictures and videos of naked people having sex. Who is deceiving who?

It is time to examine yourself. Life is a battle field, and not a game house or a theater. It is time to separate yourself from careless and care-free living. It is time to live a life of self-respect, integrity and honesty.

‘It doesn’t matter’ is the attitude that has destroy many destinies.

Don’t live a life today that will be full of regrets and pain tomorrow.

I am speaking from experience.

Stop the game of flirting…

Live the sexual moral life

Rufus Yamoah

Sex Morality Counselor