The Truth About Romance

Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.

--1 Corinthians 7:1

What is Romance?

According to Wikipedia, it is the pleasure of feeling of excitement and mystery of love.

Romance usually implies an expression one’s love or one’s deep emotional desires to connect with another person, most particularly, the opposite sex.

Romance can also be seen as a form of Sexual Play. It is in this context we will address this subject.

The Truth and Power of Romance

Romance or sexual play is a very powerful activity can greatly impact a relationship

Romance is like an oil in an engine, and like a fuel to fire.

Romance is a sweet provision for the satisfaction of the flesh.

Romance is special as sexual intercourse is special.

God is not Against Romance

“When Isaac had been there a long time, Abimelek king of the Philistines looked down from a window and saw Isaac caressing his wife Rebekah” (Genesis 26:8)

***The Scriptures wrote about Isaac having romantic activity with HIS WIFE. They were MARRIED!!!***

The Act of Romance

Here are some activities people engage in Romance or Sexual Play

1.      Kissing

2.      Rubbing/touch of sexual/sensitive organs of the other person (e.g. breast, penis, vagina, buttocks)

3.      Deep hugging

4.      Massaging

Why Young people/Singles Engage in Romance

1.      As a means of consolation to avoid sexual intercourse.

2.      As a means to avoid pregnancy and Sexually transmitted disease.

3.      As a means to attain sexual satisfaction.

4.      As a means to please their partner.

What You Need to Know

1.      Romance may be sexual abstinence, but it is not sexual purity.

2.      Romance as a single is still sexual immorality before God and a sin. (Hard right?—but true)

3.       Romance may be a means to avoid STD; but not a means to avoid sin.

4.      Romance is a sexual doorway that will always lead to sexual intercourse.

5.      Romance is highly influenced by the spirit of lust.

6.      Romance is making provision and feeding the flesh and not your spirit.

7.      Romance does not bring sexual satisfaction, it will leave wanting for more.

Doorways/Causes of Romance

1.      Too much closeness with the opposite sex.

2.      Holding and Dancing together

3.      Sitting on the laps of an opposite sex

4.      Watching pornographic together

5.      Falling in lust and infatuation thinking it is Love.

6.      Listening to romantic/songs music/ watching love movies/soap operas together.

7.      Having sexual dreams while sleeping.

8.      Reading romantic novels/magazines.

Overcoming the trap of Romance

1.      Change the way you think. A lot of people are too casual when it comes to sexual play. They see it as nothing wrong with it. They believe that as long as we don’t engage in sexual intercourse, everything else can take place. BIG LIE!

2.      Humble Yourself and FLEE. A lot people are claim they are strong and that they can manage the game of romance. But this people who claim to be strong are only bread in the hand of the devil. You are not better, stronger or wiser than Joseph who ran away from Potipher’s wife!

3.      Soak yourself in the Word of God. This will help you deal with lust in your mind.

4.      Spend more time fellowship with God through prayer, fasting and worship.

5.      Close every doorway that will only fuel your sexual feelings.

My Advice:

As a single/young person, engaging in sexual play or romance will only give the devil opportunity to attack you with lust towards sexual immorality.

The Word of God adminises us to ‘FLEE FROM YOUTHFUL LUST…” (2 Timothy 2:22

Live the sexual morality life…

Rufus Yamoah

Sexual Morality Counselor