Your decision today is the seed that will speak for your
tomorrow.
Decision Making skill is one of the best skills a person
can develop in order to attain personal success in life.
Your decision will determine your destination.
Decision making skill is the ability to make the right
choices that will bring you blessings in life and not destruction.
Sexual relationship is a kind of relationship where a
person is sexually active (I mean engage in sexual activity) with his/her
partner.
A lot of people today and living a life of regret and pain
because of poor decisions they made.
As a youth or single, for you to achieve a healthy sexual
relationship in the future, you must make the right decisions today.
A lot of young people are in the dilemma of whether to
become sexually active or not, whether to stop or start a relationship, whether
to have a kid now or focus on their school or even whether to get married or
remain single. These are some of the issues that run through the heart of many.
Sexual issues are no casual issues.
You must not be too quick to make sexual decisions
because whatever you do will have a profound effect on your destiny and success
in life.
Your decisions about sexual relationship will affect your
life plans, health, finance, family, career and relationship with God—I mean
everything about YOU.
Why People Make Wrong Decisions on Sexual Relationship
1.
Sexual feelings: A lot of people enter into a
sexual relationship because of their sexual drive not because of love. When a
person cannot lead his/her sexual feelings, then will be influence negatively
by those feelings and will try to seek satisfaction for their sexual need.
2.
Peer pressure and associations: It is true that
iron sharpens iron and like begat like. This is law of association. We become
like the people will align ourselves with. Many people enter into sexual
relationship because their friends are all sexually active and they want to
have sense of belonging.
3.
The mass media deception: The media (most
especially internet, television and music) has done a lot of harm to our youth
in the society. The media have presented a society that sees nothing wrong with
people entering sexual relationship before getting married. The media has taken
hold of the mind of young people and this has influenced people negatively into
entering into sexual relationship.
4.
Ignorance: This is really a big virus affecting
so many young people. So many entering into sexual relationship without knowing
the impact of sexual involvement on one’s life. Of a truth, people are destroyed
for lack of knowledge. Lack of proper
sex education is really affecting our churches, families, schools and society
at large.
5.
Taking of harmful drugs and alcohol: Drugs and alcohol
has a strong power to affect our emotions negatively. This can lead us into
making wrong decision on sexual relationship. Most young people who began
drinking and smoking will always crown it with sexual activity.
6.
The god of Condom: A lot of young people are
influence into sexual relationship because of the myth of safe sex…the use of
condoms and contraceptives. They belief that has long as they can purchase a
condom they are ready for sexual involvement.
7.
Family background and environment place a large role
in forming our sexual identity. Parents who have a poor sexual lifestyle will
end up breeding kids who will grow up into making wrong decisions on sexual
relationship. Our environment reveals the people’s culture and belief system.
For example, an environment that sees nothing wrong with homosexuality and
prostitution tend to raise up people with such a sexual lifestyle.
The impact of Wrong Decision on
Sexual Relationship
1. It
can lead to sexual abuse and molestation.
2. It
can lead to abortion and its complications.
3. It
can lead to unwanted pregnancy.
4. It
can lead to heart break, emotional trauma/psychological stress.
5. It
can lead to contracting STIs and HIV/AIDS.
6. It
destroys destiny and careers.
7. It
brings separation between you and God.
8. It
brings loss of virginity.
9. It
brings loss of self respect and self esteem.
10. It
can cause financial setback and struggle.
Here are some factors that will influence you towards
making the right decision concerning sexual relationship.
1.
Seek the truth about sex and its purpose from
the Word of God and not from friends or the mass media.
2.
Ask the Holy Spirit, who is called the Spirit of
Truth, to guide you into making the right decision towards any sexual issue.
The Holy Spirit also gives power to resist temptation and also ability to
control our sexual feelings.
3.
Associate with Wise Counselors and people who believe
in sexual purity. This will affect your decision on whether it is necessary to
involve in sexual relationship or not. Remember Iron sharpens iron.
4.
Patience is a virtue. I have learned this lesson
the hard way. A lot of young people are in a hurry to satisfy their sexual urge
and are not willing to wait for their time. When you have this virtue of
patience, it will influence your decision not to rush into sexual relationship
because you see others in it.
5.
Your relationship with God matters when making
sexual decisions. You must ask yourself that, “Should I seek to satisfy and
please my flesh or to make my Heavenly Father Happy?” which is more important.
Some benefits of making the Right Decisions on Sexual
Relationship
1.
It will protect your destiny and purpose.
2.
It bring protect your honor, glory, dignity and
respect.
3.
It will preserve you from STIs and HIV/AIDs.
4.
It will help you to become responsible and
focus.
5.
Sexual purity clarifies your vision and
direction to your destination.
6.
It will help you to avoid regret, set back,
heart break and unnecessary emotional/mentral drainage.
7.
It will help you to achieve your goal.
8.
It builds your self esteem and confidence.
9.
It helps you to build a strong relationship with
God and people.
Do you have a boyfriend or girlfriend that gives you
sexual satisfaction?
Are you thinking of entering a new sexual relationship?
Let this article lead you into making the right decision
that will build your life and help you to reach the height you desire in life.
Rufus E. Yamoah
Sexual Morality Counselor
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