The Truth About Quick Sex

“For their feet run to do evil…” (Proverbs 1:16a)                                                               

The Concept of ‘Quickie’ 

The term ‘Quickie’ is the common name used for ‘Quick Sex’.

Quick Sex or rather ‘quickie’ as the name implies, means ‘having sexual intercourse with a person in a fast, immediate and brief encounter in order to get instant sexual gratification or satisfaction. (E.g. 60 seconds, 2 minutes, 5 minutes or 10 minutes).

Why People Prefer Quick Sex

1.       They feel less condemned or guiltless when practicing it.

2.       It does not waste their time.

3.       It gives them instant gratification for their sexual lust and passion.

4.       It gives them opportunity to have sex in the public. (e.g. some are having sex in the school; sex in an elevator;  sex in a movie theater; sex in the office; sex in the car; sex in the kitchen, e.t.c).

The Cause of Quick Sex

We are living in a society that has fallen short of standard, morality, truth, purpose, ethics, laws and culture. We in living in a world that sees morality has illiteracy, nudity as fashion and sexual perversion and violence has modernization, freedom and civilization.

Quick Sex has become the sexual trend of the day because we live in a society where people always look for ways to gratify their desire NOW, irrespective of the damage it will cause in their life, destiny and even relationships.

Quick Sex practice is highly influenced and driven by the spirit of lust and an uncontrollable sexual desire.

Quick Sex is an act of foolishness. It is an expression of lack of self-respect, dignity, decency and reasoning. Also, Quick sex can lead to sexual addiction. I HOPE YOU ARE NOT ANGRY WITH ME!

YOU NEED TO UNDERSTAND THE CLEAR TRUTH…

Sexual immorality is not determined by the longevity of sexual intercourse you have with a person.

Sex is sex. Sin is sin.

Long sex, quick sex, hard sex or soft sex…or whatever you may call it (Yes, people like to give name and meaning to everything for their selfish pleasure), AS FAR GOD IS CONCERN, every form of sexual satisfaction that is not between a man and his wife…IT IS IMMORALITY…IT IS SIN.  NO LONG SERMON!!!

A lot of people today see ‘quickie’ as nothing but just fun, game or simple pleasure. They say ‘it doesn’t matter’ ‘we only spend 5 minutes’ ‘we didn’t even enjoy it’ ‘we just want to try something’.

TIME TO TAKE CHARGE, HAVE CONTROL AND OVERCOME

The power to overcoming an uncontrollable sexual desire is not in engaging in quick sex.

 Quick sex is not the solution to sexual passion and lust.

We must not our sexual hormones and feelings to enslave us. We are not animals! We have been given Will Power by God in order to make wise decisions and right choices.

We must develop the attitude of discipline and self control.

We must not change our value system. Let us seek to do the right thing rather than seeking to always feel good.

We must understand that the seeds we sow today will speak for us tomorrow.

 A moment of madness can lead to eternal damage of our life, future and destiny.

Note: If it doesn't make sense today...It will make sense tomorrow.

Live the Sexual moral life...

Rufus Elijah Yamoah
Sexual MoralityCounselor

Understanding the Bondage of Sexual Perversion

"There is a way that seemeth right unto a man but the end thereof are the ways of death”

                              -- (Proverbs 14:12)

 

What is Perversion?

According to Webster’s dictionary defines perversion as ‘diverting from the true intent or purpose; a change to something worse; a turning or applying to a wrong end or use’.

According to Free Medical dictionary, Sexual Perversion is also known as ‘paraphilia disorder’ meaning a condition where a person’s sexual urge, fantasies, impulses and behavior is abused and misused against culture, nature, social, health, religions, laws and ethics and also causing psychological /emotional harm and distress.

Bible Dictionary simply defines Perversion as ‘deviation from righteousness’.

Sexual perversion all about ‘having a wrong mentality and response towards sexual desire.    

The Bondage of Sexual Perversion   

This is a matter of Choice...

Sexual perversion is immorality in the highest order.

Sexual perversion has made humans to become even worse than animals. (Sorry to say this).

It has cause abomination and destruction to many lives.

Sexual perversion has left many young people and adult to wallow in bondage, shame and darkness.

Through sexual perversion, Satan (the Old Serpent) has twisted God’s purpose and corrupted one of Gods greatest gift to humanity—SEX .

Through sexual perversion, the abominable has become the acceptable. Sexual shame and disgrace has now become a public celebration.

The society today believes that human rights and freedom permits people to engage in whatever sexual activity that pleases them as long as it brings them immediate satisfaction and gratification.

#Sexual perversion is the fruit of false freedom, self glorification and corrupt wisdom of men.

THIS IS EVIL. (Please read Romans 1:17-32).

Types of Sexual Perversion

There are over hundred sexual perversions in the world today. Sexual opinions and activities are increasing as the days goes by.

I will only give you some of the common sexual perversions causing controversies and keeping people in deep and serious bondage.

1.      Homosexuality (Gay):            ( a male having sex with a fellow male)

2.      Lesbianism :                ( a female having sex with a female)

3.      Masturbation:            (a person having sex with his/her own self)

4.      Bestiality:       (Having sex with animals/birds )

5.      Having sex with toys and images

6.      Oral sex :         ( putting your tongue into another person’s sexual organs (vagina/penis)

7.      Finger sex:      ( putting your finger(s) into a woman’s vagina)

8.      Anal sex :        ( having sex with a person’s anus)

9.      Tran-sexuality: (changing your body//sexual organ into that of the opposite sex.

10.  Sex robbery:   ( stealing the underwear’s of an opposite sex)

11.  Incest:            (having sex with a blood relative i.e. mother, sister, cousin).

12.  Rape:               (having sex with someone against their Will)

13.  Child Sex abuse: (having sex with a child or kid)

The Power Purpose and Truth

Dr Myles Munroe says, “When a purpose is not known abuse is inevitable”.

While Jesus Christ says, ‘You shall know the truth, and the truth shall set you free.

#The doorway to sexual perversion is lack of purpose and ignorance/rejection of truth.

There is great power in understanding purpose.

Purpose brings power

Purpose brings right living.

Truth brings freedom.

Truth gives direction and knowledge.

Truth brings grace and light.

When you know the purpose of sex and you discover the truth on how to act and react to your sexual fantasies, you will have sexual freedom.

Note: Truth is Truth; it does not matter if it doesn’t have followers like Twitter or friends life Facebook!

To find the purpose of sex and the truth about sex and sexual activities, we have to seek and ask the inventor of sex –GOD.

Back to Basis

        

You can never discover PURPOSE AND TRUTH without first connecting with GOD.

You can never connect or network with God without first linking yourself to the WORD OF GOD—THE BIBLE.

(PLEASE DO WELL TO READ AND RE-READ THE BOOK OF LEVITICUS CHAPTER 18)

 Live a life of freedom, joy and victory. Be free from the bondage of sexual perversion.

Rufus Yamoah

Sex Morality Counselor

The Truth About Kissing

"The kisses of an enemy is deceitful" 
                                               -- (Proverbs 27:6b)

The Concept of Kissing

Wow! This is really a sensitive but interesting subject.
The issue of Kissing has really raised a lot of noise
and stirred up controversy among the minor and elite circles.

Everyone has his/her own opinion and experience.

But let’s get this straight: Life is not determined by your opinions; it is determined by TRUTH.

The truth must be told and lies and myths must be buried.

Anyway…

What is Kissing?

In a general and simple term, ‘kissing is an act or process whereby a person uses the lips as a mark of love or greeting towards someone or something’.

There are different kinds of kissing. Kissing can be express in different ways. 

More so, kissing means different things to different people.

Much as this subject has been influenced so much by nature and nurture, I wouldn’t want to dabble into an unnecessary controversy thereby loosing focus of my priority.

In short; I just want to address the issue of mouth-to-mouth kissing.

The Effect of Mouth-to-Mouth Kissing

Mouth-to-mouth kissing in simple practical term means ‘a form of kissing where by a person uses his/her lips to make contact with another person’s lips as a mark of expressing love and soul connection.

When it comes to the subject of sex and sexuality, kissing is a very big topic. 

The effect of mouth-to-mouth kissing to the human body can never be overemphasized.

Kissing is the most powerful force that activates or releases our sexual hormones and passion.

When we engage in kissing, it creates a strong urge in us to have sex.

Kissing (whether casual or serious) is an effective tool for seduction and manipulation. 

Kissing creates an atmosphere for sexual connection.

Kissing is the preparation ground for sexual intercourse.

The Truth must be told

Kissing is the major channel through which the spirit of deception operates against people.

Through kissing (I mean mouth-to-mouth), an evil poison called ‘lust’ is released into our mind and heart, thereby causing us to become carnal. (Romans 8:7)

Don’t deceive yourself: if you are not ready for sex, do not engage in the game of kissing. Kissing is the bus that will take you to a destination called ‘Sexual Intercourse’.

Kissing is a powerful doorway to sexual immorality. If you don’t want to be the next victim of fornication, please don’t tempt yourself with the game of kissing.

A young lady said to me, “I am in a relationship, and I agree not to have sex, but I will be kissing”.

Well… actually a lot of people claim nothing is wrong, yet thousands of people are falling sexual victim in per second billing.

Let me tell you: Kissing is as powerful as sexual intercourse.

Through kissing (whether, deep or long kissing), people achieve sexual climax and satisfaction even without sexual intercourse.

Now; if this is true… then mouth-to-mouth kissing is a sinful act much as fornication is. PERIOD!

In relationship, dating or friendship with someone, when you treat kissing as casual or nothing, it may lead you into the pit of sexual immorality.

Wisdom says that: whatever that will lead you into sin do not engage in it.

Be Wise… be Smart… Flee!

Rufus Yamoah

Sex Morality Counselor