The Game of Flirting

“Can a man scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned? Can a man walk on hot coals without his feet being scorched?” –Proverbs 6:27-28

Flirting?

Does it really matter?      

Flirting is perhaps the oldest and most trusted  weapon the enemy, Satan, has used to draw and deceived mankind into the pit of sin and wickedness.

Flirting is the mother of tempatation; as temptation is the mother of sin.

Flirting is simply a deliberate choice, will or act of putting oneself in a position of being tempted or lured into problem or sin.

Flirting is creating a doorway by your own self-will for the Devil and Sin to creep into your life.

It is all about building a house when you know you will not live in it…

I ask you, “Why will someone get to a door if he knows you is not interested to come inside or enter”.

This is the attitude of a Flirt, “I like to get to the door, but I don’t feel like entering. I just want to stay and play around the door.”. IT DOESN’T MAKE ANY SENSE!

Flirting is a game of deception, lies, disguise, hypocrisy, flattery and seduction. It is a creative attitude displayed  by a person in order  to make people believe what is not true.

God is not a Flirt. There is no flirting in His Nature. God is honest,straightforward, truthful, original and sincere.

The game of flirting has been a deadly parasite that has diverted and destroy the destiny and lives of many young  people today. People flirt around the door of sexual immorality and God warned  to flee from it!

If you study the Life of Samson in the Bible, you will find out that he was a Flirt. He used his wisdom, power and abilities to flirt and play game. He ventured  into sexual immorality and ended up losses his eyes, power and life.

Flirting is an profitable activity. It is one of Satan tricks to waste, steal and divert the destinies, visions and gifts of young  people without them  knowing.

Joseph in the Bible was not a Flirt. He feared God and saw sexual immorality as wickedness and evil. Therefore when His Master’s wife came to romance him, he ran for his life. 

FLEE…for this is the right attitude we must develop if we want to overcome sexual temptations.

How  many of us see flirting as a sin? 

How  many of  play around sin and then say, “After all, I haven’t committed the sin?” How  many of us kiss and romance someone and say, ‘well it is okay, we did not have sexual intercourse.”

There is a proverb that says, “IF YOU DON’T WANT TO EAT THE APPLE, THERE IS NO NEED TOUCHING IT”.

The Bible says, “do not give the devil a chance”.

Many so called Christians have boyfriend and girlfriend, yet they claim they want to remain a virgin! What a stress…what a deception.

Flirting is self-deception. It comes from the spirit of lust. You said you don’t want to have sex, yet you like to watch pictures and videos of naked people having sex. Who is deceiving who?

It is time to examine yourself. Life is a battle field, and not a game house or a theater. It is time to separate yourself from careless and care-free living. It is time to live a life of self-respect, integrity and honesty.

‘It doesn’t matter’ is the attitude that has destroy many destinies.

Don’t live a life today that will be full of regrets and pain tomorrow.

I am speaking from experience.

Stop the game of flirting…

Live the sexual moral life

Rufus Yamoah

Sex Morality Counselor

The Merchandize of Sex

¹⁵ When Judah saw her, he thought her to be an harlot; because she had covered her face.
¹⁶ And he turned unto her by the way, and said, Go to, I pray thee, let me come in unto thee; (for he knew not that she was his daughter in law.) And she said, What wilt thou give me, that thou mayest come in unto me?
¹⁷ And he said, I will send thee a kid from the flock. And she said, Wilt thou give me a pledge, till thou send it?
¹⁸ And he said, What pledge shall I give thee? And she said, Thy signet, and thy bracelets, and thy staff that is in thine hand. And he gave it her, and came in unto her, and she conceived by him.     

(Genesis 38: 15 -18)

Your ability to negotiate wisely will determine your success in any business.

If you think I am lying, go ask Donald Trump!

Negotiation skills are one of the most fundamental skills every aspiring entrepreneur must have if he/she wants to succeed in business.

In our world today, Sex has become more valuable as a business commodity than for any other purpose—whether for recreation, reproduction or pleasure.

Sex is a merchandize. Sex is a commercial and business product.

Today, Sex Entrepreneurs are perhaps the richest dudes you can find in the society.

Expert Advertisers and Marketers in their concluding research claimed: “Anything that has a content of sex will definitely sell in our society!”

The merchandize of sex is one of the most corruptible and destructive practices in human history. 

Sex business is highly detestable and an abomination in the sight of God!

Prostitution is highly demonic! Selling sex materials and products that encourages sexual immorality (e.g. like condoms, pornography) is absolutely wickedness!

Sex was a priceless treasure given to the first couples (Adam and Eve) by God in the beginning of creation.

The bible says in Proverbs 6:26, “for the price of a prostitute is only a loaf of bread…”

Satan has turn sex into becoming the cheapest product in the world. In fact, you can get it for free if you want it now. Easy and free! But don’t ask me how because I won’t show you!

The Worst Business Deal Ever

Let me ask you a funny question: “What would make you pay a million dollar for a dirty pant?”

Maybe you would pay out of madness!

Sexual immorality is the worst business you can ever engage in.

Know this today: When you involve yourself in sexual immorality, you are merchandizing with the devil himself!

The truth is that when ever you negotiate with the devil, you will always come out as a failure and a fool!

I want to show you three products you sell to the devil when ever you engage yourself in sexual immorality of any kind.

Now, when you look at our above scripture, you will find out that Judah was negotiating a sex business deal with Tamar, a lady he thought to be a prostitute.

In verse 18 of Genesis 38 Judah said, what pledge shall I give thee? And she said, Thy signet, and thy bracelets, and thy staff that is in thine hand. And he gave it her, and came in unto her…

Like Judah, many of us do not recognize the value of what we possess and that is why we are ready and quick to give it away through sexual immorality.

Product 1: “Thy Signet”: The Signet represents our identity. The first property the devil want to steal from us is ‘who we are’ and what represent in God and Christ Jesus. We sell our signet when we engage in sexual immorality and we become abandoned by God.

Product 2: “Thy Bracelet”: The Bracelet represents our grace and glory. We were created with a special grace and glory so that we can excel and prosper in life. When we sell our bracelet through sexual immorality we will become unstable, wasteful and a failure in life.

Product 3: “Thy Staff”: The Staff represents your authority. When God created you He gave you a staff so that you can rule, lead and have dominion and victory in life. The devil wants to take way your authority and reduce you to a loaf of bread!

Don’t you think Judah gave too much for just a few minutes pleasure?

This is the worst business deal ever recorded in the bible.

Beware of the spirit of Tamar…

Through sexual immorality, the devil takes the three most significant properties given to you by God—your identity, your glory, your authority!

Follow not the way of Judah in the merchandize of sex.

Live the Sexual Morality Life

Rufus Yamoah

Sex Morality Counselor

The Foundation for Marriage Success

“If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do?”

                                                                        --Psalm 11:3

The Power of Foundation

The life span, strength and hope of every building lie upon the foundation.

The foundation carries the highest task of a building.

Whatever affects the foundation determines the condition of the building

The foundation controls the building.

We all know that no building can stand or survive by itself. It relies and depends solely upon the foundation.

Meditate on this: “If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous (you) do?”

Different Kinds of Foundation…

If you observed carefully you will see that the above scripture did not say ‘foundation’ but rather ‘foundations’.

But WHY?

Because, a man life is consist of different kinds of foundations. Our life consists of several parts or divisions. We have the marital life, business life, academic life, spiritual life, social life, sex life, thought life, etc…

Every part of our life has it own foundation. This means that your business life has its business foundation. Your academic life has academic foundation.

But we are looking at your marriage life and its foundation.

The Foundation for Your Marital Success…

We want to consider the foundation for marriage success.

As a single, youth or teen…I ask you this question: “what foundation are you laying today for your marriage tomorrow?

Understanding the ‘BED’ Foundation

“Keep the bed undefiled…”--- Hebrews 13:4

What does it mean to keep the bed undefiled?

What does the ‘bed’ represent?

When Apostle Paul talked about the bed, he wasn’t trying to describe a four corner wooden and foam furniture! He was addressing the marriage foundation.

The Bed represents your marriage foundation.

The condition bed (I hope you know what I mean) will determine the outcome and success of your marital life.

Laying a Solid Marital Foundation

Your marriage or marital life is one of the most crucial and vital part of the human life.

Your marital life will have a direct and indirect effect on every area of your life.

As a single or a youth, you must strive to lay the right foundation before you enter into marriage.

**MARRIAGE IS A LIVING HELL WHEN IT IS BUILT ON A DESTRUCTIVE FOUNDATION**

The Secret of Success

“The way you lay your bed, so you will lie on it”, says a Wise Man.

***KEEP THE BED UNDEFILED***

This is the secret of success. It is the solution. It is the key to laying a solid marriage foundation.

When the bed is defile, your marriage foundation is destroyed.

Defilement breeds destruction.

Our bed is defile when we engage or live a sexual immoral life as a youth or single.

In our relationship, dating or courtship with our partners or lovers, we must do ourselves the greatest favor by abstaining from every form of sexual looseness, immorality and promiscuity.

Through sexual immorality, we releases and invites the spiritual enemies that will work to destroy our marital life.

Our bed is undefiled when we flee and abstain from sexual immorality and we are ultimately building a solid foundation for our marriage success tomorrow.

Remember this: “If the foundation be destroyed, what can the righteous do?”

Read books; attend seminars; listen to tapes, audio cds, and mp3; watch videos and DVD.

These things are good.

But…

Know this: INFORMATION GATHERING DOES NOT SCARE THE DEVIL FROM DESTROYING YOUR MARRIAGE; IT IS RIGHTEOUSNESS…

In all your learning, strive to live a sexual immoral-free life.

Protect your bed. Your bed is the seed of your marriage harvest.

Living the Life...

Rufus Yamoah

Sex Morality Counselor

More Than Just Intercourse

“But I say unto you, that whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart”. – Matthew 5:28

The Simple Old Definitions  

Sexual Intercourse is a sexual activity in which a man insert is manhood (sexual organ) into a woman’s vagina.

Adultery is a sexual intercourse committed by a married person with someone he/she is not married to.

Fornication is a sexual intercourse committed by two unmarried persons.

The Concept of Sexual Immorality

The aim of this article is to redefine sexual immorality according to the perspective laid by Jesus Christ.

In Matthew 5:27-28 ( please read it) where Jesus was having an Open Air teaching seminar, He finally unfold the true concept of sexual immorality…which humans have not been able to understand or comprehend since creation.

Many people hold an archaic and shallow view and belief that sexual immorality consist only in adultery and fornication. They say only these two can be seen as sinful and illegal. They say that apart from adultery and fornication, humans can express their sexual appetite any way they feel like and it is not bad. What a painful philosophy!

People who believe that adultery and fornication is what sexual immorality is all about know nothing about sexuality!  We all need to do a rethink!

In the above scripture, Jesus is saying, “My people, sex is more than just an intercourse! “

Sexual immorality or sin is more than adultery and fornication!

Jesus is also saying , “My children, there are many ways you fall into sexual immorality apart from sexual intercourse”.

It is time to change your mindset about sexual immorality. Sexual sin is more than making love with somebody.

I want to show you some others ways we fall into sexual immorality apart from adultery and fornication. Remember, through knowledge and guidance you can win any battle (Proverbs 24:6).

1.       Masturbation: Masturbation is having sexual satisfaction with oneself by playing or rubbing your sexual organ(s). There are male masturbation, female masturbation and even group masturbation. Beware , for this is sexual immorality.

2.       Pornography: Pornography is which also known as ‘porn’ is having a sexual satisfaction through watching pictures of naked people and videos of people having sex. This is an abomination to God and your eyes. Whether, you do it with your G.SM phone, internet, VCD, magazines or any channel…please stop this destructive act!

3.       Internet/Phone Sex: This takes place when two or more persons is having sexual satisfaction by snapping and sending their nakedness to one another. Sometimes they use a computer device called ‘webcam’ in other to view each other nakedness live. They write messages with sexual contents and text it to each other. Please stop this corruption if you do it.

4.       Oral Sex: This is having sexual pleasure or satisfaction by putting your tongue or mouth in the sexual organ(s) of another person. God hate this act so much. It is devilish love expression. Please don’t engage in this.

5.       Anal Sex: This when a man get sexual satisfaction by inserting is manhood into the anus of another person, whether male or female. This is witchcraft love. Beware!!!

6.       Homosexuality: This is having sexual satisfaction by engaging in love making with a person of the same sex (gender) with you. A gay is a male having sex with another male. A lesbian is a female having sex with another female.  This is Satan's idea of mocking God. Beware of this, it will destroy your life.

7.       Spiritual Sex: There are some people who get sexual satisfaction only in the spirit world. Some engage in spiritual sex through their dreams ( having spiritual wife or husband); Astral sexual projection and travel; Some through imagination and visualization. This is demonic. Flee from this, it will only bring course into your life.

There are many, but these are some ways people engaged in sexual immorality.

Now you can see than…sex is more than just Intercourse.

You can achieve it…

Rufus Yamoah

Sex Morality Counselor

Attaining Sexual Purity

“Always be clothe with White…” Ecclesiastes 9:8a

We all understand what the color White represents. It is a symbol of purity, holiness and sacredness.

White is a special and unique among of all colors. It is the color of divinity—God’s nature.

This is the very reason why God said we should be always—not sometimes or when we feel like—be clothe in white. (Read Genesis 1:27) 

Listen: The above focus scriptural verse is an advice…it is a divine command which we must obey at all cost!

What does it mean to be clothe in White?

It simply means, to always (at all time) do your best to abstain (avoid, flee) from every appearance or act of sin, filthiness, defilement, perversion, immorality or evil that could bring corruption to your life in God.

So what about sexual purity?

Sexual purity is simply a state where the human spirit, soul (mind and emotion) and body is free all sexual defilement, sin, evil or immorality.

But wait…

Is it possible for a youth or teen to attain a sexually pure life in this sex- crazy society we find ourselves?”

I know you may have a thousand reasons why it seems impossible! Yes, I quite understand how you feel, because we all know that as youths we are in period of life where our sexual hormones are most hungry to be fed and our sexual muscles are most seeking to exercise its abilities.

Despite all these…

WITH ALL BOLDNESS, I CAN TELL YOU THAT, SEXUAL PURITY IS VERY POSSIBLE!

Take a look at Revelation 3:14 which say, “Yet you a FEW PEOPLE in Sardis who have not soiled their clothes. They will walk with Me, dressed in White, for they are WORTHY”.

In the crowd of sexual immorals, in the society that is crippled by sexual infestation and in the church of sexual hypocrites…there are FEW PEOPLE who attain sexual purity!

These few people have made up their mind to walk with God like Enoch, Noah and Daniel and never to compromise their stand no matter their corruption of their generation.

**Don’t say every one is doing it. Nobody will file a lawsuit against you if you don’t! You don’t have to say yes to the crowd. Be part of the worthy few that say NO to sexual sin**

Sexual immorality will only soil (defile) your cloth (glory, life) and destroy your walk with God. It will only invite dishonor, disapproval, failure and shame into your life.

Can God count you to be worthy?

Do you want to live a life full of favor, honor, blessings and abundance…

…the secret is in attainment of sexual purity.

Rufus Yamoah

Sex Morality Counselor