The Truth About Masturbation

"You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery. But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart."--Matt. 5:27-28 (NIV)

One of the reasons God created Eve was because He did not want Adam to end up in masturbation lifestyle. Sound funny, right? (Please read Gen. 2:18; Eccl. 4:11).

Understanding What Masturbation IS?              

                    

Masturbation is a sexual activity where someone derives sexual pleasure or satisfaction by rubbing or playing with his/her sexual organ with their hands or with the help of any instrument.

We have male and female masturbation.

Masturbation is one of the most common sexual behaviors among young people—yet nobody sees the effects and dangers around it.

The truth has been swallowed up with many lies and misconceptions.

Of a truth, people are destroyed because of lack of knowledge—God’s knowledge.

Understanding the Cause

Loneliness + Uncontrolled sexual urge = Masturbation.

Masturbation is caused an unclean spirit.

It is addictive and habitual. It has a strong bonding power to cage its victim for a lifetime.

This force of masturbation is so strong that when it comes upon someone, until he/she engage in the act the spirit will not leave.

Masturbation is having a strong desire to satisfy flesh. God warned us against seeking to satisfy or please the flesh or our carnal mind. (See Romans 8:6-8)

Masturbation is a consolation of the devil to bridge your sexual immoral desire and lust.

**God is too Holy to ever suggest masturbation as an antidote for your sexual lust or urge**

Many people try to treat masturbation as common and casual. Some felt that it should not be given attention because it is just a bad habit and not more. THIS IS NON SENSE!

Masturbation is more than just a bad habit…IT IS SEXUAL IMMORALITY…IT IS A SIN AGAINST GOD.

When we lack this truth and understanding…we will continue to live in bondage of falsehood.

When you look carefully at the above opening scripture, you will discover the powerful truth Jesus revealed to us: Sexual immorality is more than just sexual intercourse...

THIS IS IT:

**Every sexual gratification, relieve or pleasure that does not involve a man and a wife (as prescribed by God) is a sin and evil whether there is an intercourse or not...PERIOD!

Take a look at this scripture: "AGAIN, IF TWO LIE TOGETHER, THEN THEY HAVE HEAT: BUT HOW CAN ONE BE WARM ALONE?" (Eccl. 4:11)

This scriptural question is posted to everybody who engages in masturbation.

THINK—YES, THINK ABOUT IT.

How can you find warm (sexual pleasure) alone?

This reveals and proved that masturbation is abnormal no matter who or what you are!

Much as Sexual intercourse outside marriage is condemned...Masturbation is not an Option...

Those who engage in masturbation have put on a filthy garment. And like Joshua (Zech. 3:1-7), God is ready to change your garment today...

YOU SHALL KNOW THE TRUTH…AND THE TRUTH YOU KNOW AND APPLY SHALL SET YOU FREE.

Rufus Yamoah

Sex Morality Counselor

The Truth About Mobile Pornography

“And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is good, and acceptable, and perfect will of God”. (Romans 12:2)

Pornography, or rather ‘porn’ as it is commonly called, is the act of viewing pictures/videos of naked people for the sake of satisfying your sexual desire.

In our world today, the pornography business industry has become a boom and it is really making a lot of entrepreneurs and business people millionaires, not minding the lives they are destroying in the process.

This is a painful truth you don’t want to hear: “Every porn video or picture you watch you are directly or indirectly transferring money to someone. You are making people rich while you destroy yourself in the process.

Let’s face it…

GSM pornography?

Does it really matter?

Of all forms of pornography, GSM or Mobile pornography is by far the most common type of pornography we have seen in this sexual infested society we live in.

A painful report states that, 7 out of every 10 young adult will possess a nude or half-nude picture in his/her mobile device.

Today the Christian youths are not exempted. In fact it is now common that when a preacher is speaking the word of God in the church, you see young people browsing through their phones viewing pornographic materials.

Listen, this issue is so clear. You that is reading this article now, would you confidently say you don’t have any sexual or pornographic picture or video in that your phone?

If you think I am joking on this matter, just call for a youth meeting and ask everyone to submit their phones for what I called ‘Mobile Porn Evaluation’. You will be shock to see that even those so-called Holy Ghost filled brethren and heaven-bound saints are also flying high on the wings of pornography.

Some few years ago, God gave me a powerful discovery and insight about a man and his mobile device.

He said “our phones represent a very important part of our life—who we are and what we represent”. He said “He will judge our actions, our words, but He will also judge every activity we engage in with our phones.”

A lot of people see pornography as part of civilization and human freedom of expression.

People who claim that pornography is OK as long as you don’t engage in sexual intercourse know nothing about sex and sexuality.

One fat truth you must grab is that: Sexuality is beyond sexual intercourse.

Jesus made this point clear (see Matthew 5:27-28) that if you looks at a woman lustfully (having desire to have sex with her) you have committed adultery in the heart.

Pornography is a sexual sin of the eyes that goes in to pollute, corrupt and destroy the heart and mind.

Mobile Porn is the number one enemy of the mind. It defiles the mind and fills it with sexual thoughts and desires.

Your mind is a very important part of our whole being. A healthy mind will produce a healthy life.

God also want you to serve Him daily with your mind (see Matthew 22:37).

Please, I have an idea for you. Let us all engage in what a called ‘Mobile Sanctification’. It is time to clear from your mobile device every virus that is corrupting your mental system.

A pornographic mind is a deformed mind. It cannot function at divine capacity. It cannot reach a place of perfection, acceptability and goodness.

Please ask yourself the question: “Of what right do I have to look at someone else nakedness when is neither your wife nor husband?”

Remember, it was because Ham took pleasure in watching his Father Noah’s nakedness that was while he was cursed.

My dear friends; The secret of ending GSM pornography is not in a special formula or strategy, it is in you. The power lies in your hand. No one can help you but yourself.

It is a matter of personal decision, determination and self discipline. It is said that ‘where there is a Will, there is a Way.

Change your mindset and make a resolution to quit this dirty and immoral practice, and you will receive divine support from your God.

You will make it.

Rufus Yamoah

Sex Morality Counselor

The Game of Flirting

“Can a man scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned? Can a man walk on hot coals without his feet being scorched?” –Proverbs 6:27-28

Flirting?

Does it really matter?      

Flirting is perhaps the oldest and most trusted  weapon the enemy, Satan, has used to draw and deceived mankind into the pit of sin and wickedness.

Flirting is the mother of tempatation; as temptation is the mother of sin.

Flirting is simply a deliberate choice, will or act of putting oneself in a position of being tempted or lured into problem or sin.

Flirting is creating a doorway by your own self-will for the Devil and Sin to creep into your life.

It is all about building a house when you know you will not live in it…

I ask you, “Why will someone get to a door if he knows you is not interested to come inside or enter”.

This is the attitude of a Flirt, “I like to get to the door, but I don’t feel like entering. I just want to stay and play around the door.”. IT DOESN’T MAKE ANY SENSE!

Flirting is a game of deception, lies, disguise, hypocrisy, flattery and seduction. It is a creative attitude displayed  by a person in order  to make people believe what is not true.

God is not a Flirt. There is no flirting in His Nature. God is honest,straightforward, truthful, original and sincere.

The game of flirting has been a deadly parasite that has diverted and destroy the destiny and lives of many young  people today. People flirt around the door of sexual immorality and God warned  to flee from it!

If you study the Life of Samson in the Bible, you will find out that he was a Flirt. He used his wisdom, power and abilities to flirt and play game. He ventured  into sexual immorality and ended up losses his eyes, power and life.

Flirting is an profitable activity. It is one of Satan tricks to waste, steal and divert the destinies, visions and gifts of young  people without them  knowing.

Joseph in the Bible was not a Flirt. He feared God and saw sexual immorality as wickedness and evil. Therefore when His Master’s wife came to romance him, he ran for his life. 

FLEE…for this is the right attitude we must develop if we want to overcome sexual temptations.

How  many of us see flirting as a sin? 

How  many of  play around sin and then say, “After all, I haven’t committed the sin?” How  many of us kiss and romance someone and say, ‘well it is okay, we did not have sexual intercourse.”

There is a proverb that says, “IF YOU DON’T WANT TO EAT THE APPLE, THERE IS NO NEED TOUCHING IT”.

The Bible says, “do not give the devil a chance”.

Many so called Christians have boyfriend and girlfriend, yet they claim they want to remain a virgin! What a stress…what a deception.

Flirting is self-deception. It comes from the spirit of lust. You said you don’t want to have sex, yet you like to watch pictures and videos of naked people having sex. Who is deceiving who?

It is time to examine yourself. Life is a battle field, and not a game house or a theater. It is time to separate yourself from careless and care-free living. It is time to live a life of self-respect, integrity and honesty.

‘It doesn’t matter’ is the attitude that has destroy many destinies.

Don’t live a life today that will be full of regrets and pain tomorrow.

I am speaking from experience.

Stop the game of flirting…

Live the sexual moral life

Rufus Yamoah

Sex Morality Counselor

The Merchandize of Sex

¹⁵ When Judah saw her, he thought her to be an harlot; because she had covered her face.
¹⁶ And he turned unto her by the way, and said, Go to, I pray thee, let me come in unto thee; (for he knew not that she was his daughter in law.) And she said, What wilt thou give me, that thou mayest come in unto me?
¹⁷ And he said, I will send thee a kid from the flock. And she said, Wilt thou give me a pledge, till thou send it?
¹⁸ And he said, What pledge shall I give thee? And she said, Thy signet, and thy bracelets, and thy staff that is in thine hand. And he gave it her, and came in unto her, and she conceived by him.     

(Genesis 38: 15 -18)

Your ability to negotiate wisely will determine your success in any business.

If you think I am lying, go ask Donald Trump!

Negotiation skills are one of the most fundamental skills every aspiring entrepreneur must have if he/she wants to succeed in business.

In our world today, Sex has become more valuable as a business commodity than for any other purpose—whether for recreation, reproduction or pleasure.

Sex is a merchandize. Sex is a commercial and business product.

Today, Sex Entrepreneurs are perhaps the richest dudes you can find in the society.

Expert Advertisers and Marketers in their concluding research claimed: “Anything that has a content of sex will definitely sell in our society!”

The merchandize of sex is one of the most corruptible and destructive practices in human history. 

Sex business is highly detestable and an abomination in the sight of God!

Prostitution is highly demonic! Selling sex materials and products that encourages sexual immorality (e.g. like condoms, pornography) is absolutely wickedness!

Sex was a priceless treasure given to the first couples (Adam and Eve) by God in the beginning of creation.

The bible says in Proverbs 6:26, “for the price of a prostitute is only a loaf of bread…”

Satan has turn sex into becoming the cheapest product in the world. In fact, you can get it for free if you want it now. Easy and free! But don’t ask me how because I won’t show you!

The Worst Business Deal Ever

Let me ask you a funny question: “What would make you pay a million dollar for a dirty pant?”

Maybe you would pay out of madness!

Sexual immorality is the worst business you can ever engage in.

Know this today: When you involve yourself in sexual immorality, you are merchandizing with the devil himself!

The truth is that when ever you negotiate with the devil, you will always come out as a failure and a fool!

I want to show you three products you sell to the devil when ever you engage yourself in sexual immorality of any kind.

Now, when you look at our above scripture, you will find out that Judah was negotiating a sex business deal with Tamar, a lady he thought to be a prostitute.

In verse 18 of Genesis 38 Judah said, what pledge shall I give thee? And she said, Thy signet, and thy bracelets, and thy staff that is in thine hand. And he gave it her, and came in unto her…

Like Judah, many of us do not recognize the value of what we possess and that is why we are ready and quick to give it away through sexual immorality.

Product 1: “Thy Signet”: The Signet represents our identity. The first property the devil want to steal from us is ‘who we are’ and what represent in God and Christ Jesus. We sell our signet when we engage in sexual immorality and we become abandoned by God.

Product 2: “Thy Bracelet”: The Bracelet represents our grace and glory. We were created with a special grace and glory so that we can excel and prosper in life. When we sell our bracelet through sexual immorality we will become unstable, wasteful and a failure in life.

Product 3: “Thy Staff”: The Staff represents your authority. When God created you He gave you a staff so that you can rule, lead and have dominion and victory in life. The devil wants to take way your authority and reduce you to a loaf of bread!

Don’t you think Judah gave too much for just a few minutes pleasure?

This is the worst business deal ever recorded in the bible.

Beware of the spirit of Tamar…

Through sexual immorality, the devil takes the three most significant properties given to you by God—your identity, your glory, your authority!

Follow not the way of Judah in the merchandize of sex.

Live the Sexual Morality Life

Rufus Yamoah

Sex Morality Counselor

The Foundation for Marriage Success

“If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do?”

                                                                        --Psalm 11:3

The Power of Foundation

The life span, strength and hope of every building lie upon the foundation.

The foundation carries the highest task of a building.

Whatever affects the foundation determines the condition of the building

The foundation controls the building.

We all know that no building can stand or survive by itself. It relies and depends solely upon the foundation.

Meditate on this: “If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous (you) do?”

Different Kinds of Foundation…

If you observed carefully you will see that the above scripture did not say ‘foundation’ but rather ‘foundations’.

But WHY?

Because, a man life is consist of different kinds of foundations. Our life consists of several parts or divisions. We have the marital life, business life, academic life, spiritual life, social life, sex life, thought life, etc…

Every part of our life has it own foundation. This means that your business life has its business foundation. Your academic life has academic foundation.

But we are looking at your marriage life and its foundation.

The Foundation for Your Marital Success…

We want to consider the foundation for marriage success.

As a single, youth or teen…I ask you this question: “what foundation are you laying today for your marriage tomorrow?

Understanding the ‘BED’ Foundation

“Keep the bed undefiled…”--- Hebrews 13:4

What does it mean to keep the bed undefiled?

What does the ‘bed’ represent?

When Apostle Paul talked about the bed, he wasn’t trying to describe a four corner wooden and foam furniture! He was addressing the marriage foundation.

The Bed represents your marriage foundation.

The condition bed (I hope you know what I mean) will determine the outcome and success of your marital life.

Laying a Solid Marital Foundation

Your marriage or marital life is one of the most crucial and vital part of the human life.

Your marital life will have a direct and indirect effect on every area of your life.

As a single or a youth, you must strive to lay the right foundation before you enter into marriage.

**MARRIAGE IS A LIVING HELL WHEN IT IS BUILT ON A DESTRUCTIVE FOUNDATION**

The Secret of Success

“The way you lay your bed, so you will lie on it”, says a Wise Man.

***KEEP THE BED UNDEFILED***

This is the secret of success. It is the solution. It is the key to laying a solid marriage foundation.

When the bed is defile, your marriage foundation is destroyed.

Defilement breeds destruction.

Our bed is defile when we engage or live a sexual immoral life as a youth or single.

In our relationship, dating or courtship with our partners or lovers, we must do ourselves the greatest favor by abstaining from every form of sexual looseness, immorality and promiscuity.

Through sexual immorality, we releases and invites the spiritual enemies that will work to destroy our marital life.

Our bed is undefiled when we flee and abstain from sexual immorality and we are ultimately building a solid foundation for our marriage success tomorrow.

Remember this: “If the foundation be destroyed, what can the righteous do?”

Read books; attend seminars; listen to tapes, audio cds, and mp3; watch videos and DVD.

These things are good.

But…

Know this: INFORMATION GATHERING DOES NOT SCARE THE DEVIL FROM DESTROYING YOUR MARRIAGE; IT IS RIGHTEOUSNESS…

In all your learning, strive to live a sexual immoral-free life.

Protect your bed. Your bed is the seed of your marriage harvest.

Living the Life...

Rufus Yamoah

Sex Morality Counselor