“The temptations in your life are no different from
what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation
to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out
so that you can endure”. (1 Corinthians 10:13)
Understanding Sexual Urge
Sexual Urge (U.S.) simply
means ‘when a person is having feelings, passion or desire to have sex or
engage in sexual activity’.
Quick Fact about Sexual Urge
# Sexual urge or feeling is not a sin.
# Sexual urge is a seed deposited in every human by
God for pleasure and fulfillment.
Everyone’s sexual urge is
not the same because we were all created with different personalities, traits
and make-up.
# God did not plant sexual
feeling inside of us to enslave us, neither for it to control or remote us to
obey its wants.
# If you do not experience
sexual urge at all as a person, then you are probably dead and need to be
buried! Sexual urge is part of what makes us living and active.
The Power and the Struggle
The cause of every sexual
perversion and promiscuity is man’s inability to control is sexual urge.
Youth number one problem and
struggle is the struggle to manage their youthful lust (sexual desire).
Every time receive one
question, “Mr. Rufus, how can I control my sexual urge?”
It is true that sexual
feeling or desire is one of the most powerful emotions in the make-up of
humans.
The need for sexual satisfaction
has caused millions of young people to involve themselves in all kinds of
perversion and wickedness, thereby destroying their lives and destinies.
A lot of people believe that
as long as man has sexual feeling, he cannot attain sexual purity or freedom.
This belief system is not
true. It is a big lie!
Sexual freedom, purity and victory
are not a function of the destruction of sexual feeling; it is the mastering,
managing and controlling of your sexual urge.
We walk by faith and not by
sight, sense or feelings (2 Corinthians 5:7).
We are led by the Word of God (Psalm 119:105), and
not by our emotions (Jeremiah 17:9)
Another popular belief that
is causing sexual defeat and damage is that: ‘Sexual feelings are not meant to
be controlled, but to be expressed when it comes.’
You must understand and
accept it that, sexual expression, satisfaction or fulfillment as a youth or
single…is IMMORALITY AND A SIN!
No matter your feeling or
urge, it does not give you the legal right or ticket to engage in any sexual
activity or pleasure.
Causes of Sexual Urge
There are basically two main
sources that influence sexual drive or desire:
1. Sexual urge is naturally
influence by our sexual hormone inside of us called Oxytocin. This is the
natural seed deposited in us by God for sexual pleasure.
The kind of sexual feeling
can be easily controlled through discipline, self control and purity thinking.
2. Sexual urge can also be
influence by the spirit of lust which is called ‘Satan’s messenger of
immorality’. When the spirit of lust comes, it will release an uncontrollable
sexual feeling like a fire inside of us to make sure that we engage in sexual
activity before it can be quenched or calm down. Sexual feeling that is
influence by lust cannot be easily controlled except you battle it with the
Word of God and prayer.
The Fuel of Sexual Urge
The reason why many young
people and even adults for victim of their sexual urge is because they lack
wisdom on how to handle their feeling. Instead of looking for ways to quench,
subdue or control their desire, they allow the feeling to develop and give
birth to sexual immorality.
Sexual play is the fuel of
sexual urge. The Word of God command us not to make provision for the flesh
(our human nature) (Read Romans 13:14). Jesus Christ said about Himself that “the
devil has found nothing in me".
We fuel or develop our
sexual urge by engaging in sexual play like kissing, romancing, sucking of
breast or penis, fingering, pecking e.t.c.
This is serious mistake.
We cannot play around sex. We
cannot underestimate the power of sexual urge. There is no self confidence when
it comes to sexual activity. We are warned to flee!!!
Proven Ways to Handle your
Sexual Urge
1. Change your thinking. Renew
your mind. Stop immoral thinking. Start practicing what I called ‘purity
thinking’. This can take place as you meditate of the Word of God which is a purifier
and cleanser ( John 15:3)
2. Use the Blood of Jesus and
Name of Jesus to Bind and uproot the spirit of lust attacking and manipulating
you.
3. Ask for the Help of the Holy
Spirit. He gives power and grace to overcome and escape.
4. Fasting and prayer also help
to build up your spirit and soul to have strength to combat sexual feelings.
5. Get yourself into doing something
worthwhile with your time. Idleness is the play ground for immoral thinking and
lust. (1Timothy 5:13). Avoid loneliness. Engage in positive socialization.
6. Close every sexual doorway
that is causing the sexual urge. E.g. watching of pornography. You need to do
away with such practice if you want to manage your feeling successfully.
To your purity and victory
Rufus Yamoah
Sex Morality Counselor
