Bible Answers to Lies About Sex

1.       LIE: Homosexuality is acceptable.

•God created Adam for Eve. (“Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” So the LORD God formed from the ground all the wild animals and all the birds of the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would call them, and the man chose a name for each one. He gave names to all the livestock, all the birds of the sky, and all the wild animals. But still there was no helper just right for him. So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep. While the man slept, the LORD God took out one of the man’s ribs and closed up the opening. Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man. “At last!” the man exclaimed. “This one is bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh! She will be called ‘woman,’ because she was taken from ‘man.’” This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” Genesis 2:18-24 NLT) •It is clearly stated as detestable. (“Don’t you realize that those who do wrong will not inherit the Kingdom of God? Don’t fool yourselves. Those who indulge in sexual sin, or who worship idols, or commit adultery, or are male prostitutes, or practice homosexuality, or are thieves, or greedy people, or drunkards, or are abusive, or cheat people—none of these will inherit the Kingdom of God.” 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 NLT)

2. LIE: A person can be born gay.

•We were created in God's image to be holy as he is holy, so it is impossible to be born gay if God said it's a sin. Also he commanded us to be fruitful and multiply, which gay people cannot naturally do. Therefore, if a person could be born gay, they would naturally be able to join together for procreation. (“Then God said, “Let us make human beings in our image, to be like us. They will reign over the fish in the sea, the birds in the sky, the livestock, all the wild animals on the earth, and the small animals that scurry along the ground.” So God created human beings in his own image. In the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. Then God blessed them and said, “Be fruitful and multiply. Fill the earth and govern it. Reign over the fish in the sea, the birds in the sky, and all the animals that scurry along the ground.”” Genesis 1:26-28 NLT)

2.       LIE: A person can be born the wrong sex. (Transgender)

•When God created us, he created us with a specific purpose; hence, it doesn't mean that he made a mistake just because we don't align with his purpose for us. (““I knew you before I formed you in your mother’s womb. Before you were born I set you apart and appointed you as my prophet to the nations.”” Jeremiah 1:5 NLT) (“God is not a man, so he does not lie. He is not human, so he does not change his mind. Has he ever spoken and failed to act? Has he ever promised and not carried it through?” Numbers 23:19) (“The LORD is righteous in everything he does; he is filled with kindness.” Psalms 145:17 NLT)

 4. LIE: Sex before marriage is socially acceptable and is now a norm, so it should be acceptable and expected to happen.

•We should govern ourselves according to God's word and not worldly standards because they're ever changing, but the word remains the same. (“Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.” Hebrews 13:4 NLT) (“But because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband. So I say to those who aren’t married and to widows—it’s better to stay unmarried, just as I am. But if they can’t control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It’s better to marry than to burn with lust.” 1 Corinthians 7:2, 8-9 NLT)

 5. LIE: Having a mistress/side chick/cheating is acceptable, especially if you're not satisfied in your relationship.

(““Therefore, I will throw her on a bed of suffering, and those who commit adultery with her will suffer greatly unless they repent and turn away from her evil deeds.” Revelation 2:22) (““At that time I will put you on trial. I am eager to witness against all sorcerers and adulterers and liars. I will speak against those who cheat employees of their wages, who oppress widows and orphans, or who deprive the foreigners living among you of justice, for these people do not fear me,” says the LORD of Heaven’s Armies.” Malachi 3:5) (“I have seen your adultery and lust, and your disgusting idol worship out in the fields and on the hills. What sorrow awaits you, Jerusalem! How long before you are pure?”” Jeremiah 13:27 NLT) (“But the man who commits adultery is an utter fool, for he destroys himself.” Proverbs 6:32 NLT) (““Do not defile yourself by having sexual intercourse with your neighbor’s wife.” Leviticus 18:20 NLT)

6. LIE: Having a sexual relationship in exchange for gifts, money, status, an opportunity etc. is acceptable.

(“A prostitute is a dangerous trap; a promiscuous woman is as dangerous as falling into a narrow well.” Proverbs 23:27) (“For the lips of an immoral woman are as sweet as honey, and her mouth is smoother than oil. But in the end she is as bitter as poison, as dangerous as a double-edged sword. Her feet go down to death; her steps lead straight to the grave.” Proverbs 5:3-5) (“Don’t you realize that your bodies are actually parts of Christ? Should a man take his body, which is part of Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never!” 1 Corinthians 6:15 NLT)

 7. LIE: Sex can be done leisurely with no feelings or strings attached.

 (“And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.”” 1 Corinthians 6:16)

 8. LIE: Because sexual urges are natural, it's impossible to abstain.

(“You say, “I am allowed to do anything”—but not everything is good for you. And even though “I am allowed to do anything,” I must not become a slave to anything. You say, “Food was made for the stomach, and the stomach for food.” (This is true, though someday God will do away with both of them.) But you can’t say that our bodies were made for sexual immorality. They were made for the Lord, and the Lord cares about our bodies. And God will raise us from the dead by his power, just as he raised our Lord from the dead. Don’t you realize that your bodies are actually parts of Christ? Should a man take his body, which is part of Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never! And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.” But the person who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with him. Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.” 1 Corinthians 6:12-20 NLT)

 9. LIE: We can live under grace when it comes to sexual immorality.

 (““At that time I will put you on trial. I am eager to witness against all sorcerers and adulterers and liars. I will speak against those who cheat employees of their wages, who oppress widows and orphans, or who deprive the foreigners living among you of justice, for these people do not fear me,” says the LORD of Heaven’s Armies.” Malachi 3:5) (“And we must not engage in sexual immorality as some of them did, causing 23,000 of them to die in one day.” 1 Corinthians 10:8) (“You can be sure that no immoral, impure, or greedy person will inherit the Kingdom of Christ and of God. For a greedy person is an idolater, worshiping the things of this world.” Ephesians 5:5 NLT) (“And don’t forget Sodom and Gomorrah and their neighboring towns, which were filled with immorality and every kind of sexual perversion. Those cities were destroyed by fire and serve as a warning of the eternal fire of God’s judgment.” Jude 1:7) (““But cowards, unbelievers, the corrupt, murderers, the immoral, those who practice witchcraft, idol worshipers, and all liars—their fate is in the fiery lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death.”” Revelation 21:8)

 10. LIE: I can look as long as I don't touch.

(““You have heard the commandment that says, ‘You must not commit adultery.’ But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart. So if your eye—even your good eye —causes you to lust, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. And if your hand—even your stronger hand —causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.” (Matthew 5:27-30 NLT)

(this article is Written by Destiny Nixton during her Sexual Morality Leadership training under the Mentorship of Rufus Elijah Yamoah)

Exposing Sexual Immorality in the New Age Church

“Notwithstanding I have a few things against thee, because thou sufferest that woman Jezebel, which calleth herself a prophetess, to teach and to seduce my servants to commit fornication, and to eat things sacrificed unto idols” (Revelation 2:20)

 And no wonder, for even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light.

--2 Corinthians 11:14

What is the New Age Church?

The New Age Church is the church that is pastor by Jezebel, the mother of all immorality.

The New Age Church is the church that practices religion but denies the power of God. (2 Timothy 3:5)

The New Age Church is the church the uses the Bible for preaching and teaching, yet rejects the Truth and the practice of holiness and righteousness.

The New Age Church is the church of the last days; a church that has driven out the Spirit of God and is now controlled by the spirit of error, seduction and deception. (1Timothy 4:1)

The New Age Church is the church of Satan.

The New Age Church is the Anti-Christ church that is ruled by men’s philosophies, traditions and inventions (Colossians 2:8)

Facing the Dimensions of Sexual Immorality in the Church

Apostle Paul Addressing the Corinthians Christians living in immorality on 1 Corinthians 5:

“It is actually reported that there is sexual immorality among you, and such sexual immorality as is not even named^[a] among the Gentiles—that a man has his father’s wife! ² And you are puffed up, and have not rather mourned, that he who has done this deed might be taken away from among you. ³ For I indeed, as absent in body but present in spirit, have already judged (as though I were present) him who has so done this deed. ⁴ In the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, when you are gathered together, along with my spirit, with the power of our Lord Jesus Christ, ⁵ deliver such a one to Satan for the destruction of the flesh, that his spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus.^[b]

⁶ Your glorying is not good. Do you not know that a little leaven leavens the whole lump? ⁷ Therefore purge out the old leaven, that you may be a new lump, since you truly are unleavened. For indeed Christ, our Passover, was sacrificed for us.^{[c] 8} Therefore let us keep the feast, not with old leaven, nor with the leaven of malice and wickedness, but with the unleavened bread of sincerity and truth.

⁹ I wrote to you in my epistle not to keep company with sexually immoral people. ¹⁰ Yet I certainly did not mean with the sexually immoral people of this world, or with the covetous, or extortioners, or idolaters, since then you would need to go out of the world. ¹¹ But now I have written to you not to keep company with anyone named a brother, who is sexually immoral, or covetous, or an idolater, or a reviler, or a drunkard, or an extortioner—not even to eat with such a person.

¹² For what have I to do with judging those also who are outside? Do you not judge those who are inside? ¹³ But those who are outside God judges. Therefore “put away from yourselves the evil person.”

               

 Here is Some Sexual Immorality in the New Age Church that must be handled.

1       The Gay Christians: Gay Christian movement is a religion or denomination that falls under the New Age Church. They claim that there are born again gays; after all Eunuchs in the Bible were gays. Some present Jesus has gay and even had sexual involvement with His disciples. People say Christianity is a free religion. Everything is allowed as long as you don’t harm others. Some said Ruth and Naomi were lesbians while David and Jonathan were homosexuals. God is so angry is gay practice…He destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah for homosexuality! (Jude 1:7). The church need to repent from this perversion!

2.       Flirting Believers: This is another category of Christians in the church who claim that they are into ‘Christian dating’. Believers now keep boyfriend and girlfriend just as the worldly people do. This practice has led many youth/teens into falling victims of sexual immorality. Flirting believers believes there is nothing wrong with engaging in the game of romance, kissing and mutual masturbation with your love partner as long as you do not engage in sexual intercourse. This theory is absolutely wrong! Sexuality is more than just intercourse. Sexual purity is more than just avoiding sexual intercourse. We must avoid this unholy relationship of flirting which lacks divine purpose and direction. We must avoid or stop unholy relationships.

3.       The Holy Kiss Madness: the church today, members are encouraged to give a holy kiss to fellow brethren as prescribed by Apostle Paul (Romans 16:16). Am I against Apostle Paul or the holy kiss? Of course, NO! it is just that from a careful research, we have found that this holy kiss madness has led many into falling prey of the spirit of lust which in turn has give birth to many unholy relationships among Christians and also caused sexual immorality. The bible says we should not give the devil a chance (Ephesians 4:27). The so called ‘holy kiss’ that was meant for greeting and love has been abused and is not been perverted and diverted for lustful passion and sexual defilement. We must be wise…the devil is a roaring lion!!!

4.       Holy Sex: it is shocking to hear about holy sex. The only true holy sex can only be found between legally married couples as commanded by the Word of God. Any form of sexual activity or fulfillment among singles/youth cannot the termed ‘holy’. In the new age church, they tell us that masturbation is not a sin, it is just a bad habit like every other habit, and that God is not against it. Wow! Today Christians sees sexual practices like pornography, fingering sex, oral sex and masturbation as acceptable by God as long as there is no sexual intercourse. They still tagged themselves as ‘virgins’ because they have not had sexual intercourse! What a show of shame and blindness! The church today only hit hard on fornication and adultery and refuse to talk about other forms of sexual fulfillment, forgetting that Jesus was not soft on anything that has to do with sex…warning that if a man looks at a woman to lust after her in the heart has already committed fornication (Matthew 5:28). Beware of the ‘holy sex’ saga!!!

5.       The Prayer Partners: today we see two prayer partners of opposite sex parading themselves alone both in Night vigils and house visitation in the name of ‘partnering in prayers to pull down the kingdom of darkness’. Unfortunately, these so called prayer partners are now the ones pulling themselves into the destruction of sexual immorality. When you are partnering with an opposite sex in prayers alone…be wise…be cautious! The devil is really fighting to pull down the prayer department of the body of Christ through the poison of sexual immorality. Beware!!!

6.       Pastoral Counseling Sessions: The pastoral counseling some years back was one of the most powerful tools in the body of Christ. This session was a demonstration of divine wisdom and knowledge to empower believers to make right decisions and directions in every area of the lives. It was so lovely…the glory of God was at work! But it is so painful to report to you that it is no longer so anymore, the pastors of the new age church have turned this divine session into a bed of immorality and corruption. They take advantage of female folks who come to them for help of advice and prayers and seduce and manipulate them into ministering to them through sexual performance! My God!

7.       The Sunday School Teacher and Student Relationship: There is another hidden evil going on in this area. The devil is really working so hard to destroy the church with immorality from every angle. Today, many students go to the houses of their Sunday school/Bible teacher is the aim to being close to their spiritual mentor, but they ended up as sexual victims or rape or even building secret sexual relationship with them. These male teachers are very good at hold private/home bible class with female teens/children alone. This has led the enemy to plant evil seed in their heart to destroy new believers in the church. We must be very carefully not to be over spiritual and neglect the principles of human body system. Remember, as long as we are in the flesh, we must be careful with our dealings with opposite sex whether young or old. We must avoid evil appearance and make no provision for the flesh or carnal mind.

What is God’s Will for the Church?

“He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault”. (Ephesians 5:27)

Listen my beloved brethren, much has been happening in the body of Christ concerning sexual immorality and this has made God’s Presence and Power to depart from the church.

My question is: “Are you a member of this New Age church? Do you live in any of these sexual behaviors?

It is time we come out and purity ourselves so that we can truly live as God’s chosen vessels of Honor and not to dishonor.

It is time to bring back our church from Sexual immorality and restore the glory of God in holiness and righteousness.

Building a purity community…

Rufus Yamoah

Sexual Morality Counselor

The Power of Self Esteem on Sexual Morality

By Destiny Nixton

(Sexual Purity Strategist)

What is Self-esteem?

Self-esteem according to the Merriam-Webster dictionary is described as a feeling of having respect for yourself and your abilities.  The secondary definition is [having] confidence and satisfaction in oneself or self-respect.  

Oftentimes, we only think of self-esteem in terms of being satisfied with your physical appearance and having a sense of love for yourself.  Yet, we neglect the most important part of the definition, being respectful to ourselves.

Let’s look deeper into the word “respect.”  One key definition of respect is “to treat or deal with something that is good or valuable in a proper way.”  A secondary definition when respect is used as a verb is ‘to regard someone or something as being worthy of admiration because of good qualities’. 

  Many individuals possess low self-esteem; consequently, they feel unworthy, inadequate, unimportant, average etc.  Some people are aware that they harbor ill feelings towards themselves, but for others, these feelings may be subconscious.  Conversely, others may possess overly high self-esteem, which may also be described as arrogance or conceit (discussed in the following blog).

How does this relate to Sexual Purity?

The way you feel about yourself, whether it’s a feeling of unworthiness or cockiness, can have major negative impacts on living a sexually pure lifestyle. 

Let’s shift our focus specifically on low self-esteem.  I am very familiar with this aspect of self-esteem because I suffered from low self-esteem the majority of my life and am working diligently to reaffirm my image based on how God sees me.

         

 So, what does God really think about us?

Isaiah 43:4 states, “Others were given in exchange for you.  I traded their lives for yours because you are precious to me.  You are honored, and I love you (NLT).”

God said we are precious to Him.  Notice the word-choice, “precious.” 

It’s not that we are SPECIAL to God; but we are PRECIOUS to him.  

Something that is special to you is considered special based on your sentiments towards the person who gave you the gift.  If your feelings about the gift-giver change to negative feelings, then the gift is no longer special to you.  However, because we are precious to God, our value to Him does not decrease based on your behavior towards Him.  Whether you are operation in obedience or disobedience, you were still precious enough to Him for Him to allow his Son to die for you. 

Consider a diamond:  A diamond is a precious stone.  It holds value whether it is still in a mine or in a jewelry store.  The jeweler does not decide whether the diamond has value.  The diamond is valuable even before it is sold; humans merely sell it based on its natural value.  We are like God’s diamonds. 

Just how precious are we to God?

“For this is how God loved the world: He gave his one and only son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life (John 3:16).” 

If we are that precious to him that he would sacrifice his only Son, why should we ever feel unimportant or inadequate? 

So, How Does it impact on Sexual Purity?

If you allow the enemy to make us feel less valuable than what God has already told you that you are, it gives Satan the opportunity to manipulate you in several different ways. 

We live in an overly sexualized society. The enemy can cause you to believe that you will never meet anyone who will genuinely love you if you live a pure lifestyle.  Satan can manipulate you into believing that you will not fit in or be accepted into society because you are living against societal norms.  He can manipulate you into believing that the only way to show someone that you love him or her or to make someone love you is to engage in sexual activity with the individual. 

Don’t let the enemy deceive you. 

God’s word says, “Then he said unto them, ‘you like to appear righteous public, but God knows your hearts.  What this world honors is detestable in the sight of God’” (Luke 16:15). 

Therefore, just because society says that premarital sex is now a norm and acceptable, as a believer, you are commanded to live above societal standards. 

Knowing these things, always remember that God created human beings in his own image (Genesis 1:27).  So, regardless of what people say about you or what the enemy tries to trick you into believing, remember that He made you to be like Him, thus HE LOVES YOU; YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL; YOU ARE WORTHY; YOU ARE IMPORTANT.

Warning against Arrogance and Self-conceit

Arrogance and conceit, overly high self-esteem, can be just as damaging to a sexually pure lifestyle as low self-esteem. 

Matthew 16:24 states, “Then Jesus said to his disciples, ‘If any of you wants to be my follower, you must turn from your selfish ways, take up your cross, and follow me.”

 We are Christ’s disciples and allowing our flesh to rise up and cause us to engage in masturbation, sexual intercourse, or any other sexual activities is a selfish act.

“Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does.  For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.  Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price.  So you must honor God with your body” (1Corinthians 6:18-20). 

Arrogance can allow you to think that you are above God’s judgment, or for those who have been walking in purity, arrogance can cause you to open sexual doorways that can ultimately lead to you engaging in a sexually immoral act. 

Romans 12:3 warns us against thinking more highly of ourselves than we should. 

For instance, you may be in a courtship for nearly a year and have been successful in remaining pure, but because you have become prideful you believe that you can invite your mate over to your home for a date.  Due to the intimate setting and no chaperone, you and your mate engage in an inappropriate touching.  Your arrogance caused you to put yourself in a situation to be tempted and fall victim to temptation. 

“So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus.  And because you belong to him, the power of the life-giving spirit has freed you from the power of sin that leads to death” (Romans 8:1-2).  

Through God’s power that is granted to us by way of the Holy Spirit, we have the ability to break the chains of low or overly high self-esteem.

Helpful Tips

When it comes to sexual morality and self-esteem, these are a few of the best ways to combat these negative spirits.

1.      Read and meditate on God’s word to develop confidence in why it’s important to abstain from sexual sin and to be certain of how precious you are in God’s sight.  

2.     Develop a relationship with God to afford Him the opportunity to reaffirm his love for you.

3.     When you are feeling weak or are being tempted, TAP INTO GOD’S POWER! Pray to God and ask him to help you resist temptation.

4.     SPEAK OVER YOURSELF! Your words have power! Tell yourself that you are beautiful, humble, important to God, loved by God, and more than a conqueror.  YOU ARE AUTHENTICALLY YOU AND THEREFORE ARE PRECIOUS TO GOD!

Always remember, self-esteem depends on you.  It is your job to live yourself and respect yourself, just as God loves us.  

(Edited by Rufus E. Yamoah, Sexual Morality Counselor)