Wednesday, January 14, 2015

The Truth About Fingering Sex



“Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonor their own bodies between themselves”. – Romans 1:24

The act of Fingering is a sexual activity is so common among teens and young adults.
In fact, it is said that, according to some reports, many Christians would strongly refuse to engage in sexual intercourse, but will willingly accept the pleasure of Fingering Sex.

So; what then is FINGERING?          


                                              
Fingering is a simple term, is a sexual act whereby a person places one or several fingers inside someone’s vaginal or anus to give sexual stimulation or satisfaction.

Some facts about Fingering Sex are that:

It is a more common sexual practice for lesbians.
It is a one sided affair when it comes to sexual pleasure. (Girls are mainly fingered by boys)
It is also a practice for masturbation.

The Power of Thought

It is true that the battle of sex and sexuality is a battle of the mind. Our sexual behaviors and actions is mostly connected, influenced and driven by our SEXUAL BELIEF SYSTEM.

What do people who engage in Fingering Sex thinks?

They think it is more enjoyable… (This is crazy)
They think it is safer… (True; perhaps no unwanted pregnancy)
They think it preserves their virginity… (Gush! fat lie)
They think it is a holy alternative to avoid sexual intercourse and still satisfy their sexual passion… (Funny; this belief is common among many young Christians)

Really…You Need to Know the Truth That Will Blow Your Mind

1.      You are not a virgin if you are engaging in fingering sex. (Sound hard, right?). You see, a lot of people who practice this sexual activity think it is an escape route from losing their virginity but never know that it is rather a fast-lane to losing their pride and dignity. Listen; if you think that virginity is only lost when a person engage in sexual intercourse, then you are probably living in ‘Disney World’ and you know nothing about sexual purity and morality. Vagina fingering is medically called digital penetration of the vagina. When this is done roughly, it can lead to breaking of the hymen, thereby losing your virginity. (Maybe you need to carry out your own research!). Of a truth, people are destroyed because of lack of knowledge. (Hosea 4:6).

2.      Medically speaking and health precaution, it may not be good for teens and their physical development. It can cause irritation in the sensitive genital area. Also, remember that unwashed hands can transfer germs when fingering. This can cause vaginal infection. Be careful.

3.      You must understand that every form of sexual pleasure and satisfaction that is not derived within the context of a man and his wife is sinful and immoral before God. As a Single/Youth, you must offer your body as a living sacrifice, but if you want sexual pleasure you should go and get married in other to fulfill your sexual urge. (Please check Romans 12:1, 1 Corinthians 7:1) FULL STOP!

4.      Fingering Sex, such as masturbation, is influenced by an unclean spirit. Unclean spirit is the enemy of our sexual purity walk and it causes us to dishonor our body. It can cause us to become addictive to fingering sex. Unclean spirit always makes us to become sexually dirty, carnal and selfish. In this junction, we must resist and overcome by prayers and feeding on the Word of God which is able to clean and pure.

5.      Fingering Sex can also be seen as sexual compromise. Christian boys and girls are compromising their stand for truth and holiness when they engage in this sexual activity. They see fingering sex as a holy alternative to quench the fire of their sexual urge without hurting God. (After all, there is no place it is written in the Bible that it is wrong!). Listen; if you think fingering sex is the water that will cool off your sexual fire…please think twice!!! (I am speaking from experience!)

6.      Fingering Sex can also be classified as sexual manipulation. By this I mean—for the guys— if you know that you don’t want to have sexual intercourse with a lady, there is absolutely no point trying to arouse or stimulate her sexually. And also—for the ladies/girls—if you don’t want to have sexual intercourse with a guy, don’t let him finger you for your sexual satisfaction. (Note: A guy can be fingered through his anus. Horrible!). Manipulation is wickedness and selfishness. It is an enemy of love.

My Advice…

You want to know my candid advice for people who engage in fingering sex?

CUT OFF YOUR FINGERS!
You heard me well…I said cut off your fingers or if possible your hands. After all, Jesus also gave that same counsel (Matthew 5:27-30).
I found out that, people who do not hands cannot practice fingering sex. Well, for those of us who have hands and not know what to do with them…maybe you should take my advice and cut off those fingers. (What a JOKE!)

I AM JUST KIDDING…

Seriously, if our aim is to walk in sexual purity, we must discipline ourselves and stop this practice.  Less I forget…I SAY I TOLD YOU TO CUT OFF YOUR HANDS…but please change your heart!!!

Live in freedom and victory…Walk in sexual purity.

Rufus Yamoah
Sexual Morality Counselor

Thursday, January 8, 2015

How to Deal With Rape and Sexual Molestation


BIBLE TEXT: GENESIS 34

Memory Verse: “He sent forth His Word and healed them; and delivered them from their destruction”. (Psalm 107:20)
                                                             

We are living in a world where corruption has been branded civilization; where sexual immorality is considered cultural modernization and violence and wickedness has become the trusted tool to gain quick wealth, fame and power.

In this article, we will be addressing a serious issue that has paralyzed our world and destroy the lives of many young and old. That issue is RAPE AND SEXUAL MOLESTATION.

Before we go deeper into this important topic, we want first and foremost get the definition of terms and meanings.

What is RAPE?

The word ‘RAPE’ is derived from the Latin word ‘rapere’ meaning to ‘to snatch; to grab, to carry off”.
Rape is a sexual violence or crime usually involving sexual intercourse or any other form of sexual penetration perpetrated against a person without that person’s consent.

What is SEXUAL MOLESTATION?

Sexual molestation, better known as Sexual assault, is a sexual misconduct whereby a person uses his/her position to compel or stimulate an adult or child to engage in unwanted sexual activity by means of harassment, threat or punishment.

THE PAINFUL EXPERIENCE OF RAPE

“And Dinah the daughter of Leah, which she bare unto Jacob, went out to see the daughters of the land. And when Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, Prince of the Country, saw her, she took her, and lay with her, and defiled her”. (Genesis 34: 1 & 2)

This story is one of the saddest in the entire Bible. The experience of rape is not an experience anyone would ever wish to have a taste. It is as terrible as death itself.
Dinah never knew that she would be raped on that fateful day. She just wanted to socialize with her acquaintance. Like so many rape victims all over the world, many had this horrible experience of rape while on relationship dating; some were raped by their blood relative, even some by their spouse. Some were raped when they were little as a child; some during war, some while in prison; some were raped by an individual, while some by a group of gangsters.

Let me share with you some of the bad effects of rape/molestation can cause in the lives of its victims:

1.       Serious Guilt and Self-blamed
2.       Low self-esteem and image
3.       Negative Imaginations and Nightmares
4.       Sexual dysfunction
5.       Post- traumatic stress disorder
6.       Depression
7.       Mental illness
8.       Physical injury
9.       Suicidal ideation (attempt killing of self)
10.   Sexual transmitted infections
11.   Unwanted pregnancy.

Listen to me; whatever your case may be. Whether you are a victim or you know of someone who has been sexually molested…I have a word from the Lord for you.

A WORD OF EMPOWERMENT FOR YOU

Are you a rapist or you simply like to take advantage of your authority, physical strength or cleverness to molest, compel or stimulate others’ sexually?

Or maybe, like Dinah, you have being raped/sexually molested once or perhaps many times…

IT IS NOT OVER WITH YOU.

Simeon and Levi, brothers of Dinah, decided to take matters to their hands. According to the story in Genesis 34, they decided to kill every male personality in the community.
But here is the plain truth: Revenge is never a solution for rape even when it seems like the heart-driving option. Killing can never bring healing or restoration to the soul.

I have the sure Answer.
No long sermon. JESUS is the Answer. The Holy Spirit is the Answer. Our Father God is the Answer. The Word of God has the Answer.

John chapter 10 verses 10 say, “the thief cometh not, but to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life and that they might have it more abundantly”.

Ø  To the rapist: JESUS CAME TO SAVE SINNERS… (Matthew 9:13)
Ø  To the rape victim: JESUS CAME TO HEAL THE BROKEN HEARTED…(Psalm 147:3)

Steps To Take To Receive Freedom

1.       Ask the Lord Jesus for forgiveness and cleansing for your spirit, soul and body.
2.       Forgive whoever raped you or harassed you sexually. Let go every form of bitterness, vengeance, hatred in your heart in the Name of Jesus.
3.       Use the Blood of Jesus to uproot every deposit the devil has invested in your life as a result of such experience.
4.       Bind, cast and destroy every demonic attack, curse and oppression confronting you as a result of the ugly experience.
5.       Be ready to start a new spiritual journey and life with the Lord Jesus Christ. (2 Corinthians 5:17)
6.       Healing is a process. You need to make the word of God your best companion and also have a good and godly Counselor who will guide you in such a time.

To your victory,

Rufus Yamoah
Sex Morality Counselor

Tuesday, December 2, 2014

The Truth About Quick Sex



“For their feet run to do evil…” (Proverbs 1:16a)                                                               

The Concept of ‘Quickie’ 

The term ‘Quickie’ is the common name used for ‘Quick Sex’.
Quick Sex or rather ‘quickie’ as the name implies, means ‘having sexual intercourse with a person in a fast, immediate and brief encounter in order to get instant sexual gratification or satisfaction. (E.g. 60 seconds, 2 minutes, 5 minutes or 10 minutes).

Why People Prefer Quick Sex

1.       They feel less condemned or guiltless when practicing it.
2.       It does not waste their time.
3.       It gives them instant gratification for their sexual lust and passion.
4.       It gives them opportunity to have sex in the public. (e.g. some are having sex in the school; sex in an elevator;  sex in a movie theater; sex in the office; sex in the car; sex in the kitchen, e.t.c).

The Cause of Quick Sex

We are living in a society that has fallen short of standard, morality, truth, purpose, ethics, laws and culture. We in living in a world that sees morality has illiteracy, nudity as fashion and sexual perversion and violence has modernization, freedom and civilization.
Quick Sex has become the sexual trend of the day because we live in a society where people always look for ways to gratify their desire NOW, irrespective of the damage it will cause in their life, destiny and even relationships.

Quick Sex practice is highly influenced and driven by the spirit of lust and an uncontrollable sexual desire.
Quick Sex is an act of foolishness. It is an expression of lack of self-respect, dignity, decency and reasoning. Also, Quick sex can lead to sexual addiction. I HOPE YOU ARE NOT ANGRY WITH ME!


YOU NEED TO UNDERSTAND THE CLEAR TRUTH…

Sexual immorality is not determined by the longevity of sexual intercourse you have with a person.
Sex is sex. Sin is sin.
Long sex, quick sex, hard sex or soft sex…or whatever you may call it (Yes, people like to give name and meaning to everything for their selfish pleasure), AS FAR GOD IS CONCERN, every form of sexual satisfaction that is not between a man and his wife…IT IS IMMORALITY…IT IS SIN.  NO LONG SERMON!!!

A lot of people today see ‘quickie’ as nothing but just fun, game or simple pleasure. They say ‘it doesn’t matter’ ‘we only spend 5 minutes’ ‘we didn’t even enjoy it’ ‘we just want to try something’.

TIME TO TAKE CHARGE, HAVE CONTROL AND OVERCOME

The power to overcoming an uncontrollable sexual desire is not in engaging in quick sex.
 Quick sex is not the solution to sexual passion and lust.
We must not our sexual hormones and feelings to enslave us. We are not animals! We have been given Will Power by God in order to make wise decisions and right choices.
We must develop the attitude of discipline and self control.

We must not change our value system. Let us seek to do the right thing rather than seeking to always feel good.
We must understand that the seeds we sow today will speak for us tomorrow.
 A moment of madness can lead to eternal damage of our life, future and destiny.

Note: If it doesn't make sense today...It will make sense tomorrow.

Live the Sexual moral life...

Rufus Elijah Yamoah
Sexual MoralityCounselor

Thursday, September 25, 2014

Understanding the Bondage of Sexual Perversion




"There is a way that seemeth right unto a man but the end thereof are the ways of death”
                              -- (Proverbs 14:12)
 



What is Perversion?

According to Webster’s dictionary defines perversion as ‘diverting from the true intent or purpose; a change to something worse; a turning or applying to a wrong end or use’.
According to Free Medical dictionary, Sexual Perversion is also known as ‘paraphilia disorder’ meaning a condition where a person’s sexual urge, fantasies, impulses and behavior is abused and misused against culture, nature, social, health, religions, laws and ethics and also causing psychological /emotional harm and distress.
Bible Dictionary simply defines Perversion as ‘deviation from righteousness’.
Sexual perversion all about ‘having a wrong mentality and response towards sexual desire.    

The Bondage of Sexual Perversion   
This is a matter of Choice...

Sexual perversion is immorality in the highest order.
Sexual perversion has made humans to become even worse than animals. (Sorry to say this).
It has cause abomination and destruction to many lives.
Sexual perversion has left many young people and adult to wallow in bondage, shame and darkness.
Through sexual perversion, Satan (the Old Serpent) has twisted God’s purpose and corrupted one of Gods greatest gift to humanity—SEX .
Through sexual perversion, the abominable has become the acceptable. Sexual shame and disgrace has now become a public celebration.

The society today believes that human rights and freedom permits people to engage in whatever sexual activity that pleases them as long as it brings them immediate satisfaction and gratification.

#Sexual perversion is the fruit of false freedom, self glorification and corrupt wisdom of men.
THIS IS EVIL. (Please read Romans 1:17-32).

Types of Sexual Perversion

There are over hundred sexual perversions in the world today. Sexual opinions and activities are increasing as the days goes by.
I will only give you some of the common sexual perversions causing controversies and keeping people in deep and serious bondage.

1.      Homosexuality (Gay):            ( a male having sex with a fellow male)
2.      Lesbianism :                ( a female having sex with a female)
3.      Masturbation:            (a person having sex with his/her own self)
4.      Bestiality:       (Having sex with animals/birds )
5.      Having sex with toys and images
6.      Oral sex :         ( putting your tongue into another person’s sexual organs (vagina/penis)
7.      Finger sex:      ( putting your finger(s) into a woman’s vagina)
8.      Anal sex :        ( having sex with a person’s anus)
9.      Tran-sexuality: (changing your body//sexual organ into that of the opposite sex.
10.  Sex robbery:   ( stealing the underwear’s of an opposite sex)
11.  Incest:            (having sex with a blood relative i.e. mother, sister, cousin).
12.  Rape:               (having sex with someone against their Will)
13.  Child Sex abuse: (having sex with a child or kid)

The Power Purpose and Truth

Dr Myles Munroe says, “When a purpose is not known abuse is inevitable”.
While Jesus Christ says, ‘You shall know the truth, and the truth shall set you free.

#The doorway to sexual perversion is lack of purpose and ignorance/rejection of truth.

There is great power in understanding purpose.
Purpose brings power
Purpose brings right living.
Truth brings freedom.
Truth gives direction and knowledge.
Truth brings grace and light.

When you know the purpose of sex and you discover the truth on how to act and react to your sexual fantasies, you will have sexual freedom.

Note: Truth is Truth; it does not matter if it doesn’t have followers like Twitter or friends life Facebook!

To find the purpose of sex and the truth about sex and sexual activities, we have to seek and ask the inventor of sex –GOD.

Back to Basis
        
You can never discover PURPOSE AND TRUTH without first connecting with GOD.

You can never connect or network with God without first linking yourself to the WORD OF GOD—THE BIBLE.

(PLEASE DO WELL TO READ AND RE-READ THE BOOK OF LEVITICUS CHAPTER 18)


 Live a life of freedom, joy and victory. Be free from the bondage of sexual perversion.

Rufus Yamoah
Sex Morality Counselor